Have you thought about taking some time and rereading the thread, start to finish? Things might look different in light of your new vulnerability in the marriage.I want to mention one thing that came out of session. She said she is no longer scared if it doesnt work out. I was shocked. How cold and indifferent she has become. It actually explains a lot, because if her mindset is that I am the problem and she doesnt have to change and there is a better life for her out there, then that explains why her behavior has been so completely effortless and "checked out". I was just floored when she said that. I mean this really is a totally delusion human being who has become so jaded by this hollywood BS that she doenst even understand what it means to treat people right anymore.
I feel sad, for me, this situation, and even for her. I feel sad that a once amazing girl was ruined by a bipolar sociopath (her business partner). That kind and sweet and humble girl became a ruthless, unyielding, hyper-sensitive monster in a single year. WTF. I wish I could change it all, but I am starting to realize I can only change me. Wish it was different.
I bring this up though, because a couple of you said to "put her on notice". Im not against this, but I can tell you with 100% conviction that she doesn't CARE anymore. She doesnt care enough about me or enough to try and save what we have, and if I said "either make some changes or I'm out", she would pick up the phone and call one of her fancy high powered lawyers. Guess that makes you think, then doesnt it....then why even fight for her? The only thing keeping me in it right now is our baby. I want so bad to be a family for baby, and I will admit that after all the years of abuse, I became unlovable as well, and maybe that is a big factor in wife not wanting to "fight" to make it work.
So I am trying to work on me for now. That's it. Really rough week though.