thanks for the replies.
The divorce had nothing to do with the HSSH. The marriage had serious issues of its own that were beyond repair. Honestly, if it wasn't for our daughter, we probably would have divorced years ago - we were only sticking it out for her.
Although we have been friends all these years, we both moved on and have had our own lives. It hasn't been one of those "i wish i was still with him, or we should be together" situations. We've simply been best friends. We realized recently, (after I was separated), that we talk to each other first when something comes up and are closest to. After going out the other night, we ended up staying up all night talking and realized that we have very strong feelings for each other. We hadn't discussed it before and I've never really thought about it.
We haven't really been apart, we've just been only friends all these years. Even after we initially broke up, it wasn't that long that we didn't talk. We have always been in each others lives.
We had a good talk last night about the things that we each feel that we need to work on individually before we pursue anything together. We both have intense feelings, but we are going to take things slowly.
We're going to try going out on dates and adding romance into our friendship. We had assumed that because we have been best friends and adore each other that it only makes sense that we should get back together. I now know that we need to take things slowly. We may be right for each other, but we can't just jump into anything and I'm not going to worry about the time frame that it goes along.