Can you get out??
Do you have a friend or family member that will help you out? Or let you stay with them while you figure things out?
I mean.. it doesn't sound like he is being abusive.... So I don't think you have an immediate need to leave. But, that doesn't stop you from planning it , does it?
Look for a better job.. Look to start saving some money... Getting yourself to a situation that you can afford a car, etc ,etc. True, it might take a few years.
And the situation between you & your mate (2nd hubby?) might completely change by then. If so, great. Keep yourself above water, so that if you ever need to leave, you can.
But, if things continue, and in a few years you have the means to leave, and you are still "just not happy". You can do it. It might even bring up your mood, if you can start making a long term plan to leave.. just for seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
Good luck.
Do you have a friend or family member that will help you out? Or let you stay with them while you figure things out?
I mean.. it doesn't sound like he is being abusive.... So I don't think you have an immediate need to leave. But, that doesn't stop you from planning it , does it?
Look for a better job.. Look to start saving some money... Getting yourself to a situation that you can afford a car, etc ,etc. True, it might take a few years.
And the situation between you & your mate (2nd hubby?) might completely change by then. If so, great. Keep yourself above water, so that if you ever need to leave, you can.
But, if things continue, and in a few years you have the means to leave, and you are still "just not happy". You can do it. It might even bring up your mood, if you can start making a long term plan to leave.. just for seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
Good luck.