Control seems to be a never ending problem in my marriage. She says I'm controlling and I say she is. This morning I got up and I had no clean clothes. I mean none. So I started gathering some up for a load of wash. When my wife realized this she told me that she wanted me to only wash enough clothes for today. I was a little miffed and I said I didn't wanted to have to wash more clothes tomorrow. At this point I was thinking I can't even do a load of laundry, CMON. I didn't yell or anything but with just a little attitude I basically told her I was going to wash a full load. She asked if we could sit down to talk. Then she explained that she was going to do the laundry and the only reason it had gotten behind is because the washer had been broken. She said I just needed to listen to her. I tried to explain that this was a control issue but she wouldn't let me talk. She said that I wasn't listening and I was trying to make it about something it wasn't about. This is just a small example of what goes on. I mean if we are both in the car she has to drive. She doesn't think I am capable of deciding if a situation is safe or not. She does all the finances and if I have some input she doesn't like she will just say I don't have the whole picture. I have been told I not a good shopper. We watch a lot of movies but it is a huge battle if I want to choose just one. There is a park I have wanted to go to with her for about 3 years. She says it is too far away but it is only a half hour drive. And it goes on and on and on. All I want is some help. Everything I try fails. I get so angry and bitter about this control stuff. There was this book has a forty day plan. You read it a day at a time. I was doing the first few days that were all about not saying anything negative to the other person and doing nice things for them. It was really working good but then she did something really mean and selfish. I don't even remember what it was. I was calm and tried to talk about it. STONEWALLED again. I lost it. When I started writing this I felt really helpless. I wanted advise on what I could do. Writing has giving me some clarity. I will try the book again. It is called the Love Dare. No I am not some book advertiser that has too much time on my hands. I guess I will still post this just because I spent so much time on it. Maybe other people want to talk about their control issues. God bless.