so ive been seperated now for 3.5 weeks.
anyway shes moved out etc etc..
my question is how do i approach this situation.we have some unfinished buisness with vehicles etc. i havent contacted her prob since last week like thursday or so, she has been emailing me about issues like car etc, after a few emails i find myself digging for reasons why she turned and left me. then i start with the emails etc etc.
for 3 days now she has been emailing me about our issues with phone, cars bills etc. today we threw a curve ball at me so we talked on the phone. basically every single time me and her have a conversation in person i begin to get anxious and almost panic, then ill say something along the lines of you left me i didnt want this and she goes into full on blame mode for what has happened. then of course i get upset and we start going back and forth with me defending myself.
she cried on the phone today as she just moved into her new place alone and now the car needs work and i think she is having a hard time coping with it all. she shows her anger to hide her hurt feelings. i want to work this out with this girl.. whats my move here.
few tad bits of info
im 36 shes 25, we were together for 4.5 yrs.
we both rebounded from long term relationships after only been single for 2 months.
she says im controlling angry and possessive oh and that im a liar.
she is very insecure (shes really beautiful too which is odd)
i supported her finacially fr 4 yrs and now she says i did it to hold it over her head.
shes angry at me because i asked her to leave the house after she went on a 2 day bender and didnt come home while i stayed at my parents to give her her "space" while we worked out our issues..
i am not contacting her, and i think that a 180 will shock her and starting missing me and maybe focus on the gd istead of always blasting me with what i did wrong.. i am doing ok i miss her alot but life is def going on, not interested in women at all, i am comapring everything to her and having a hard time thinking ill never get a girl as good as her again (i say that cause shes made me feel as though she is perfect and im a **** up) she has a tonne of good qualities kind compassionate, great heart, and a sweet soul.. but all she sees is this angry controlling person..
im actually not really i have my reasons for being the way i am and i know my being upset and controlling ways are justified..