[Nicole741]

Hello,
I’m 35 years old and past my “prime years”. As a woman who’s getting older, I don’t feel attractive and desired by men. I think it’s normal since I don’t look 20 anymore.

The other day a college aged guy gave me a compliment on my hair. My hair wasn’t even all that great but I felt good, as it’s been long since I don’t receive compliments. There’s also another guy who is young. He’s the son of a female co worker and he hugs me when he says hi to me. It just seems that younger guys are more friendly than men around my age or older.

I’ve heard that young guys have fantasies about having sex with an older woman at least once in their lifetime. But why is it that older men don’t see women in their 30s, 40s and 50s attractive? Look, I get the whole biology thing. I know younger women are more attractive and fertile but I still don’t understand why an older woman is unnoticed.

Aren’t you attracted to maturity? We might not be a bombshell but we have our **** together at least. Also, a lot of 20 year olds still have baby faces and look like teens and I ask myself: “Why is a 40 year old attracted to a girl and not a woman?” I feel like older woman look more womanly and classy even in the way they dress. I know not all are attractive but the ones that stay fit and take care of themselves.

Men also complain that older women are bitter. I don’t think we become bitter on purpose and if you think about it, it makes sense that some of us become like that. Men get more attractive with age so they don’t have to worry about becoming undesirable like us. How can we be enthusiastic about dating and life in general if society and MEN put younger women on a pedestal all the time? Some people even think at 30 a woman is already “too old”. Can you imagine how ****ty that is to a woman?

And last but not least, older women are more confident in bed, yet it still doesn’t do it for men. Only the younger men fantasize about older women while older men don’t look at us that much. Can you explain me why?? I just wish we were appreciated more by men our age or older.

 

[lifeistooshort]

Sister, I don't know what crowds you roll in but you need to expand your circle or stop listening to red pill types.

First of all, 35 is hardly past your prime. Geez, I'm almost 49 and still get plenty of attention. My 57 year old bf wants sex with me pretty much every day and if for whatever reason we didn't work out there are other men. I hope not because I'm pretty crazy about him, but I digress.

And no, "men" don't get more attractive with age. Men who take care of themselves will continue to look good just as women who take care of themselves continues to look good. But everyone ages.

Almost all of the couples I know are comparably aged and many met later in life after divorces.

Are you taking good care of yourself physically?

The only thing that does decline after 35 is fertility.

 

[Jay Bee]

That is not the case for me. I'm 46 and I find a lot of women in their late 40s attractive. I'm sure in my 50s I will be attracted to women that age too. Why is it that a lot of men are attracted to BBWs but you don't hear about women being into overweight guys?

 

[lifeistooshort]

That is not the case for me. I'm 46 and I find a lot of women in their late 40s attractive. I'm sure in my 50s I will be attracted to women that age too. Why is it that a lot of men are attracted to BBWs but you don't hear about women being into overweight guys?

There's a lot to be said for having a peer....someone who remembers the things you do. We can talk about what happened back in the 90's and we both remember.

IME most people want a peer, but they also want someone who's taken care of themselves and that gets a bit harder as you get older, although plenty of young people are letting themselves go these days. But they have youth....when you get order fitness matters because you start to have health and mobility issues.

 

[No Longer Lonely Husband]

Im 60, my wife is 60... I love older women?

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[Enigma32]

When I was younger, I sometimes dated older women. Mostly because it's just something different. Young men also see older ladies as an easy mark when it comes to just getting laid without so much effort. Older, chubby, single moms, that sort of thing. So, a lot of younger men will hit on older ladies but we don't often stick around. Not usually, anyway. There are exceptions, of course.

 

[StevieSFV]

Because the trend seems to be that older women only want younger men. On social media, many "try" and behave like the millennials, Gen Z-ers and angry 3rd wave feminists with their postings. Note the word "try", especially with those selfies and duck lips. When they use Tinder, three 5th grade grammer texts from Johnny Fabulous and that ring is off like a prom dress dispite being well kept by their partner whom they are trying to turn into simps. It begs the question: "Why even bother?". Pass.

 

[Mr.Married]

Cause those young boys think those older gals are going fuk them like they’ve never had before. Experience counts…..

For the record my wife is a year older than me and we are near 50. I’m still happy to go at it like rabbits and I’m not looking anywhere else. A woman that has taken good care of herself still has a lot of appeal at that age bracket. A man that has taken care of himself can be the same. Like anything else in a relationship you have to bring value to the table and work on your weak spots. Don’t get lazy in any respects and happiness and hot sex will find you.

 

[ConanHub]

It could be a number of things and I'm trying to be reasonable and try to understand what the men you are encountering are thinking.

Maybe a greater number of older women have adopted radical feminism?

Maybe more single guys in their 30's are looking to start a family?

I'm partial to mature women myself and always have been.

Younger people are very pretty to look at but I'm far more impressed with more mature folks who have maintained health and fitness.

The young guys are probably looking for some hot sex and I've already given a couple of guesses about the older men.

I've noticed, anecdotally at least, that younger women seem to be pursuing older men pretty aggressively these days as well though I'm not at all certain how widespread it is and if their motives are just for some fun or more serious.

 

[ConanHub]

P.S. aside from your fertility window closing, your a fresh little peach kiddo!😉

 

[SunCMars]

Hello,
I’m 35 years old and past my “prime years”. As a woman who’s getting older, I don’t feel attractive and desired by men. I think it’s normal since I don’t look 20 anymore.

The other day a college aged guy gave me a compliment on my hair. My hair wasn’t even all that great but I felt good, as it’s been long since I don’t receive compliments. There’s also another guy who is young. He’s the son of a female co worker and he hugs me when he says hi to me. It just seems that younger guys are more friendly than men around my age or older.

I’ve heard that young guys have fantasies about having sex with an older woman at least once in their lifetime. But why is it that older men don’t see women in their 30s, 40s and 50s attractive? Look, I get the whole biology thing. I know younger women are more attractive and fertile but I still don’t understand why an older woman is unnoticed.

Aren’t you attracted to maturity? We might not be a bombshell but we have our **** together at least. Also, a lot of 20 year olds still have baby faces and look like teens and I ask myself: “Why is a 40 year old attracted to a girl and not a woman?” I feel like older woman look more womanly and classy even in the way they dress. I know not all are attractive but the ones that stay fit and take care of themselves.

Men also complain that older women are bitter. I don’t think we become bitter on purpose and if you think about it, it makes sense that some of us become like that. Men get more attractive with age so they don’t have to worry about becoming undesirable like us. How can we be enthusiastic about dating and life in general if society and MEN put younger women on a pedestal all the time? Some people even think at 30 a woman is already “too old”. Can you imagine how ****ty that is to a woman?

And last but not least, older women are more confident in bed, yet it still doesn’t do it for men. Only the younger men fantasize about older women while older men don’t look at us that much. Can you explain me why?? I just wish we were appreciated more by men our age or older.

Yes, all you said is true.
Unfortunately, true.

Women generally mature faster than men.

I do see that women, generally, become more bitter, and less spontaneous.

They seem to take life, more seriously.

That is understandable and commendable. The world would fall apart without practical women.

That said, being practical is not always seen as attractive.

Keep in mind, the majority of women are attractive to men older than themselves.

I know, that is not what you want to hear.

I say, be happy, 😃 smile a lot, and men of all ages will be drawn to you.

Life is serious business, romance need not be. Outwardly.

Keep your worrisome thoughts to yourself, as best as you can.

Be fun to be with.

 

[Married but Happy]

Late 30s and early 40s may be difficult years for women in the dating market. Men that age may want children if they haven't already; if they don't want (more) children, they may be perfectly happy dating women near their age. Of course, some can attract younger women and prefer to date them if they can; that's just life. I know I was happy dating women my age, and even years later I find many women my age attractive (if I were seeking to date, at least). Now, I wouldn't kick a younger woman to the curb if she wanted to date me, and I have dated a few much younger women. However, I greatly prefer women no more than 10 years younger (my wife is in that range) if I want a lasting relationship.

 

[Young at Heart]

....I’m 35 years old and past my “prime years”. As a woman who’s getting older, I don’t feel attractive and desired by men. I think it’s normal since I don’t look 20 anymore.

T... but I still don’t understand why an older woman is unnoticed.

Aren’t you attracted to maturity? ....... “Why is a 40 year old attracted to a girl and not a woman?” I

...... How can we be enthusiastic about dating and life in general if society and MEN put younger women on a pedestal all the time? Some people even think at 30 a woman is already “too old”. Can you imagine how ****ty that is to a woman?

And last but not least, older women are more confident in bed, yet it still doesn’t do it for men. ...... while older men don’t look at us that much. Can you explain me why?? I just wish we were appreciated more by men our age or older.

I am going to give you the perspective of a 74 year old man. I am attracted to sexually confident women. Your post doesn't seem that confident. Admittedly, you are looking for a much younger man.

As a grandfather, being around young children is wonderful, but exhausting. I don't want to raise any more children than I already have done. I just don't have the energy. That means I really don't want to be in a sexual relationship with a young woman who wants children or might accidentally create children.

I want a mature woman, someone who I have years of shared cultural experiences, so we can talk about things and both have been shaped by historic events. Another thing is that I enjoy sex. I don't want a woman who knows little about her body and even less about how she can use her body to pleasure a man. A typical 23 year-old has been maybe having sex for 5 to 10 years. When I compare that to a 73 year old woman, who has five and a half to six decades of sexual knowledge; if the older woman really enjoys sex, she has the skill and knowledge base to really know how rock a man's world. The key is if the woman really, really enjoys sex. You need to project that you enjoy sex.

I am reminded of the Sex and the City episode where Samantha as a birthday present for her lover asks a much younger waitress to join her and her boyfriend for a 3 some (not something I would recommend). After the watress is off work, Samantha watches the young thing trying to have sex with her boyfriend and not doing a good job of it. She climbs on top of her boyfriend and uses her hip to push the waitress off the bed onto the floor, while skillfully pleasuring her boyfriend.

Do "men" like younger women? Maybe a man who wants a fertile partner and children might. Maybe a man in a mid-life crisis who wants to not think about his own aging and wants the company of youth might. Maybe a man who is so shallow all he is interested in is a firm young body. Maybe a man who is not sexually skilled enough to pleasure a mature sexually skilled woman and so only wants a woman who has little experience. Maybe a man who just want's "eye candy" on his arm and is looking for a trophy wife. Those kind of men are probably not the kind of men that a mature woman who enjoys sex should be looking for.

On the other hand, one of my neighbors has a mid-80's widower father, who lives in a retirement village. He is healthy, quite independant, and still drives. My neighbor tells stories about his father. The guy has three of four girlfriends he regularly services and takes out of the living place to help these girlfriends with errands and dates. He seems to be constantly in demand. My neighbor refers to his dad as a f#cking machine. Be careful for what you wish for as you will get much older and the population of men will die before you do. That will mean as you get older there will be fewer and fewer men your age to date. So you will find it easier to look to slightly younger men during the aging process.

Good luck.

 

[Faithful Wife]

“Men get more attractive with age so they don’t have to worry about becoming undesirable like us.”



Men who want to control your self esteem are the only ones who say this.

 

[RandomDude]

I'm attracted to women in their 30s and 40s, just not their minds so far. At my age they are panicky about their biological clock and I like to take my time before jumping into another marriage.

Also baggage 🙄

Also, it's the women in their 20s who have been making themselves available for me so who am I to punch a gift horse in the mouth.

 

[lifeistooshort]

It could be a number of things and I'm trying to be reasonable and try to understand what the men you are encountering are thinking.

Maybe a greater number of older women have adopted radical feminism?

Maybe more single guys in their 30's are looking to start a family?

I'm partial to mature women myself and always have been.

Younger people are very pretty to look at but I'm far more impressed with more mature folks who have maintained health and fitness.

The young guys are probably looking for some hot sex and I've already given a couple of guesses about the older men.

I've noticed, anecdotally at least, that younger women seem to be pursuing older men pretty aggressively these days as well though I'm not at all certain how widespread it is and if their motives are just for some fun or more serious.

I will never forget a 5k I did when I was about 43. I won the women's race and the male winner was a high school track star who was 2 time defending 800m state champion.

I come over to chat with him and he's talking to an older guy (maybe 60's) and said guy sees that I have the sane winner trophy that the high school kid has. He looks at me and says "oh, you're fast like him".

I replied that I'm not like him....I have kids like him

He looks at me and says "wow, that makes you even more impressive". I tell him that I like him

I still have a picture of me and that high school kid. Super nice young man...I heard he went to Columbia on a track scholarship.

If you keep yourself you become more appreciated as you get older.

 

[lifeistooshort]

When I was younger, I sometimes dated older women. Mostly because it's just something different. Young men also see older ladies as an easy mark when it comes to just getting laid without so much effort. Older, chubby, single moms, that sort of thing. So, a lot of younger men will hit on older ladies but we don't often stick around. Not usually, anyway. There are exceptions, of course.

That is true. Middle aged women can be an easy mark that way.

The thought of a guy closer to my sons age creeps me out. I got dragged to a bar when I was about 44 with my gf's and a young 20 something hit on me. I was so grossed out I wanted a shower.

 

[ElOtro]

Hello,
I’m 35 years old and past my “prime years”. As a woman who’s getting older, I don’t feel attractive and desired by men. I think it’s normal since I don’t look 20 anymore.

The other day a college aged guy gave me a compliment on my hair. My hair wasn’t even all that great but I felt good, as it’s been long since I don’t receive compliments. There’s also another guy who is young. He’s the son of a female co worker and he hugs me when he says hi to me. It just seems that younger guys are more friendly than men around my age or older.

I’ve heard that young guys have fantasies about having sex with an older woman at least once in their lifetime. But why is it that older men don’t see women in their 30s, 40s and 50s attractive? Look, I get the whole biology thing. I know younger women are more attractive and fertile but I still don’t understand why an older woman is unnoticed.

Aren’t you attracted to maturity? We might not be a bombshell but we have our **** together at least. Also, a lot of 20 year olds still have baby faces and look like teens and I ask myself: “Why is a 40 year old attracted to a girl and not a woman?” I feel like older woman look more womanly and classy even in the way they dress. I know not all are attractive but the ones that stay fit and take care of themselves.

Men also complain that older women are bitter. I don’t think we become bitter on purpose and if you think about it, it makes sense that some of us become like that. Men get more attractive with age so they don’t have to worry about becoming undesirable like us. How can we be enthusiastic about dating and life in general if society and MEN put younger women on a pedestal all the time? Some people even think at 30 a woman is already “too old”. Can you imagine how ****ty that is to a woman?

And last but not least, older women are more confident in bed, yet it still doesn’t do it for men. Only the younger men fantasize about older women while older men don’t look at us that much. Can you explain me why?? I just wish we were appreciated more by men our age or older.

When I was a young man I was attracted to the women of my own generation.
That was, believe me, long ago.
Now, being a mature man I´m still attracted to the same ones.
That is, the ones that were young ones when I was.
The ones that are now the blessing of Earth.
They matured to be shinning examples of mature beauty, tenderness, wisdom and passion.

The women of my generation rock the world!

 

[MIB]

35 years old? You are absolutely not an “older“ woman. Any red blooded male who is looking to date or have a little fun would gladly be in the presence of a well appointed 35-year-old woman.

 

[Julie's Husband]

Hello,
I’m 35 years old and past my “prime years”. As a woman who’s getting older, I don’t feel attractive and desired by men. I think it’s normal since I don’t look 20 anymore.

The other day a college aged guy gave me a compliment on my hair. My hair wasn’t even all that great but I felt good, as it’s been long since I don’t receive compliments. There’s also another guy who is young. He’s the son of a female co worker and he hugs me when he says hi to me. It just seems that younger guys are more friendly than men around my age or older.

I’ve heard that young guys have fantasies about having sex with an older woman at least once in their lifetime. But why is it that older men don’t see women in their 30s, 40s and 50s attractive? Look, I get the whole biology thing. I know younger women are more attractive and fertile but I still don’t understand why an older woman is unnoticed.

Aren’t you attracted to maturity? We might not be a bombshell but we have our **** together at least. Also, a lot of 20 year olds still have baby faces and look like teens and I ask myself: “Why is a 40 year old attracted to a girl and not a woman?” I feel like older woman look more womanly and classy even in the way they dress. I know not all are attractive but the ones that stay fit and take care of themselves.

Men also complain that older women are bitter. I don’t think we become bitter on purpose and if you think about it, it makes sense that some of us become like that. Men get more attractive with age so they don’t have to worry about becoming undesirable like us. How can we be enthusiastic about dating and life in general if society and MEN put younger women on a pedestal all the time? Some people even think at 30 a woman is already “too old”. Can you imagine how ****ty that is to a woman?

And last but not least, older women are more confident in bed, yet it still doesn’t do it for men. Only the younger men fantasize about older women while older men don’t look at us that much. Can you explain me why?? I just wish we were appreciated more by men our age or older.

Wow! That is one load of stereotypes and broad brushes. Time to back up and check out real people.

As an aside, in regards to the young hugger, I don't like people getting inside my 3 ft personal space. I had a lady coworker who demanded hugs and was an outrageous physical flirt. We both knew she was being a ditz so she got a pass, but that is an exception for me.

As far as men not going for mature women, I agree with others that experience counts. Having had time to get real counts. I'm glad that my wife and I lived life before we met.

The first lady to drag me off to bed was about 20 years old and 9 years my junior. The woman I married is one year my junior. We were 29 and 30 when we met, 30 and 32 when we wed. Young kids are an adventure, but generally a bit shallow. I like intelligent conversation and confidence.

As far as men becoming more attractive as we age, there are some Sean Connerys out there, but at age 77 I am not one of them. 😉