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There is nothing wrong or shameful with a man having a sex drive after his wife gives birth. He's human and he has not gone through all the physical and hormonal changes. His sex drive isn't just going to disappear. He absolutely should not be pressuring his wife into sex but there is nothing wrong with him taking care of himself.

Are you against masturbation without porn? If not, is sex still "all he can think about" if he can't go months or years without some form of sexual release due to his wife's issues? And it can take a hell of a lot longer than 6 weeks to heal from a vaginal delivery. Wonder how I know?
Did I say it was wrong for him? Again, I don’t think you are reading anything I have said. What I have said is that just because you as a man feel a certain way, that doesn’t mean that your wife does, because she has been through something traumatic for her body. That’s something a man will never understand. Just because a man is horny, doesn’t mean he needs to push his wife for sex. It’s called be an understanding human being and realizing your wife just went through something you will never understand and you aren’t the only one in the relationship nor is sex the most important thing. You keep saying that I’m stupid and can’t read, but I have said this multiple times but instead of reading anything I have written, you just keep telling me that I’m saying stuff that I am not.

I’m not against masturbation without porn at all. I do believe masturbating is completely healthy. However, I still feel like it’s not something that needs to be a concern while your wife is recovering from giving birth. And “wife’s issues?” You mean giving birth to his baby? He ****ed her, knocked her ass up, and now it’s just “her issues.” More like issues you created and then don’t want to acknowledge.
 

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Scored in the 99th percentile on the Verbal Reasoning section of the MCAT.

Funny how you assumed I’d be impressed by you being a nurse.

That’s not meant to be an insult toward nurses. I work with many highly intelligent ones but the RN in and of it self doesn’t impress me.
Yeah, okay, sure you did 😂
 

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Seriously.

Anyways, there is some good beer to drink tonight and I'm going to have sex with my wife and she's not gonna say no. 😎


Have a good night folks!
You sound like a winner. Your wife is a lucky woman. Who wouldn’t want to have sex with you? I couldn’t imagine the reason a woman would ever marry you. Must be her lack of intelligence or she’s just easy.

All you men know how to do is insult but not read or listen and I am the stupid one. Gotcha. It’s an echo chamber in here, rinse and repeat. But apparently we have a doctor in here 🤣
 

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Did I say it was wrong for him? Again, I don’t think you are reading anything I have said. What I have said is that just because you as a man feel a certain way, that doesn’t mean that your wife does, because she has been through something traumatic for her body. That’s something a man will never understand. Just because a man is horny, doesn’t mean he needs to push his wife for sex. It’s called be an understanding human being and realizing your wife just went through something you will never understand and you aren’t the only one in the relationship nor is sex the most important thing. You keep saying that I’m stupid and can’t read, but I have said this multiple times but instead of reading anything I have written, you just keep telling me that I’m saying stuff that I am not.

I’m not against masturbation without porn at all. I do believe masturbating is completely healthy. However, I still feel like it’s not something that needs to be a concern while your wife is recovering from giving birth. And “wife’s issues?” You mean giving birth to his baby? He ****ed her, knocked her ass up, and now it’s just “her issues.” More like issues you created and then don’t want to acknowledge.
You clearly have not read what I said.

Show me where I said a wife will, should, or must feel the same way her husband does.

Show me where I said it's okay for a man to push his wife for sex. (Hint, I actually said the opposite).

Show me where I said you are stupid.

I'll wait.
 

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I asked for a man’s perspective, yes, but that doesn’t mean I have to agree with it.
May I ask you what perspective from a man you would agree with? Just curious.
 

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You sound like a winner. Your wife is a lucky woman. Who wouldn’t want to have sex with you? I couldn’t imagine the reason a woman would ever marry you. Must be her lack of intelligence or she’s just easy.

All you men know how to do is insult but not read or listen and I am the stupid one. Gotcha. It’s an echo chamber in here, rinse and repeat. But apparently we have a doctor in here 🤣
We do have a doctor in here. I’d give you my DEA number but you’d probably try to forge a prescription for oxycodone.

OK, I should stop with the ad hominem attacks but those didn’t start until you continued to claim men said things that they never did over and over again.
 

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Yeah, okay, sure you did 😂
Incorrect. No sex for 6 weeks due to childbirth is not a dead bedroom.

You are interpreting things how you want to, not how they have actually been said here.
A lot of men consider that a dead bedroom, that’s not misinterpreted. Just what I’ve read. It’s still a month without sex. There was literally a poster on here who said he wouldn’t go a month without sex before he turns to porn. Porn, not just masturbating. I pointed out that there are literally, legitimate reasons that a woman may need to go without sex for a month or more. If those scenarios lead a man to porn and can be more understanding of what she is going through, there is s problem. Masturbating without porn is another matter all together and I think it’s perfectly normal and healthy.
 

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A lot of men consider that a dead bedroom, that’s not misinterpreted. Just what I’ve read. It’s still a month without sex. There was literally a poster on here who said he wouldn’t go a month without sex before he turns to porn. Porn, not just masturbating. I pointed out that there are literally, legitimate reasons that a woman may need to go without sex for a month or more. If those scenarios lead a man to porn and can be more understanding of what she is going through, there is s problem. Masturbating without porn is another matter all together and I think it’s perfectly normal and healthy.
Nuance is hard. You literally think that the man who said that was including the post partum period in his statement?
 

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We do have a doctor in here. I’d give you my DEA number but you’d probably try to forge a prescription for oxycodone.

OK, I should stop with the ad hominem attacks but those didn’t start until you continued to claim men said things that they never did over and over again.
Are you kidding me? I’m a freaking oncology nurse. No, don’t be impressed by that. I don’t even give pain meds. I infuse chemotherapy and iron. How are you not insulting me by claiming I’d forge a prescription for oxycodone? I’m not a drug addict.
 

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Masturbating without porn is another matter all together and I think it’s perfectly normal and healthy.
You can't even keep your story straight.
I’m not against masturbation without porn at all. I do believe masturbating is completely healthy. However, I still feel like it’s not something that needs to be a concern while your wife is recovering from giving birth.
 

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Are you kidding me? I’m a freaking oncology nurse. No, don’t be impressed by that. I don’t even give pain meds. I infuse chemotherapy and iron. How are you not insulting me by claiming I’d forge a prescription for oxycodone? I’m not a drug addict.
Why is it so important that I be impressed by your career? Hell, very few doctors impress me. Medical school is just rote memorization and regurgitation of facts. I’m much more impressed by a top athlete.
 

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May I ask you what perspective from a man you would agree with? Just curious.
Can you read? I’ve stated what my feelings are so I’d be assuming that’s what I’d agree with. It’s actually funny, became the very same men that are insulting me, I actually agree with their statements that porn is terrible for a relationship, I just don’t agree with everything they are saying. But instead of trying to understand my perspective as well, they just want to insult me.
 

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You can't even keep your story straight.
Notice I was replying to the after six weeks after giving birth. So no, not contradicting myself at all. You just keep picking two of my statements and are trying to make it look like I’m contradicting myself, Masturbating without porn is perfectly healthy. What I’m saying is that I think a man can and should be able to wait at least six weeks, especially if she had to as well. That’s not saying he needs to turn off his libido. After that six weeks, if a woman is still not up for sexual contact or at least intercourse, then I think it’s totally legitimate to masturbate. Hell, I feel like most women would find it sexy and it would help body image and self esteem if a man were to then suggest mutual masturbation(if she still wasn’t ready for intercourse) or at the very least masturbating in front of her(maybe with her in sexy lingerie or something, to show her that she’s still desirable.)
 
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