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My ex has also said similar things to me and in marriage counseling.

"I don't know how to feel love or give love."
"I don't feel love for anyone and I've never felt love from anyone."
"Even if my mom died, I would only be a little sad for a day, but not much."
"I can't provide the emotional connection you need. I don't need emotional connection. I don't even understand what it means."
"All I do is hurt people." (this is true)

I agree this is NOT a Love Language issue. It's an issue of him only being able to be a "match" with someone who also does not require an emotional connection.

My ex hasn't been diagnosed with anything other than ADHD, but I believe he is a sociopath (my therapist and everyone who knows him agrees) with severe narcissistic tendencies. Co-parenting with him can be a complete nightmare. In my ex's case, I don't think he will EVER get better unless he addresses issues/abuse from his mother that he refuses to. He always shut down whenever it was brought up in counseling.

He also was cheating on me with his ex, so there's that, too.

 

[SecondTime'Round]

FYI, my ex is a professing Christian as well (and so am I). He was raised in a Christian family, Christian school, church every time the doors were open, etc.