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I think you miss the point. If you read the OP's many threads, it's pretty clear that, as much as he posts "complaints" about his sex life, he clearly enjoys the mind games. He plays them too. A lot. This is the dynamic of their marriage. One that, apparently, works for both of them. Otherwise, one or both of them would have put an end to either the head games or the relationship a long time ago.
Time for me to work myself up into a "creative temper tantrum!"
 
The other day my wife and I were discussing fantasies (mostly mine). She revealed to me that she has a very particular fantasy, but that she will not tell me out of fear that it would absolutely ruin the experience by making it feel scripted and planned as opposed to her desire for it to happen completely naturally. She said she has been waiting twenty years for me to try it one day and that she hopes I will figure it out soon.

SERIOUSLY?

Badsanta

PS: There is a small chance that my wife has no fantasy and she said that to make me work harder at making her happy. That would be so like her as she admittedly enjoys messing with my head and teasing me in that exact way.
A shot in the dark: having slightly forceful sex with a stranger? (You pretending to be the perpetrator. Obviously. Don't bring a friend!)

I tried that once and was amazed that I hit bull's eye.
 
20 years! Wow!
I stumbled on one of my wife's fantasies by accident. That was after about 5 years.
When i asked where her orgasm came from, one like I had never seen before, she told me she had wanted me to do that to her for years! Go figure. I'd have never guessed she had that fantasy, and when i asked, she said she never would have told me. She was afraid i would have thought she was a perv or something. One thing....it was nothing i would have thpought of doing, much less that she wanted me to.

Anyway....i did it all the time after that.....and i did it better and with more and great enthusiasm!
She told me another little thing she wanted to try later, and i did that too! Then...another and another.
One good ffantasy deserves another....


Get her drunk, and pry it out of her!
Or you may never know what you are missng....and her either!

:)
Ok, now this is just a sin not to tell us what it was :confused:

That was my experience too: once you open the flood gates...
 
I think there is an actual fantasy (every woman has one, or a few). The fact that she is worried that it might be scripted if she told you suggests something more elaborate than a pot of honey or an activity. Probably an impersonation or the first thing I mentioned. Have you heard of Clive Bixby and Julianna? :)
 
20 years! Wow!
I stumbled on one of my wife's fantasies by accident. That was after about 5 years.
When i asked where her orgasm came from, one like I had never seen before, she told me she had wanted me to do that to her for years! Go figure. I'd have never guessed she had that fantasy, and when i asked, she said she never would have told me. She was afraid i would have thought she was a perv or something. One thing....it was nothing i would have thpought of doing, much less that she wanted me to.

Anyway....i did it all the time after that.....and i did it better and with more and great enthusiasm!
She told me another little thing she wanted to try later, and i did that too! Then...another and another.
One good ffantasy deserves another....


Get her drunk, and pry it out of her!
Or you may never know what you are missng....and her either!

:)
Lots of people have sexual fantasies that can't be accomplished with one sexual partner.

One of my wife's fantasies is to be surrounded by a circle of masturbating men, although I'm fine with her having that fantasy amongst others I certainly won't be accomodating her.
 
One of my wife's fantasies is to be surrounded by a circle of masturbating men, although I'm fine with her having that fantasy amongst others I certainly won't be accomodating her.
You probably can't; it's quite difficult to form a circle with just one person >:)

That's some fantasy though...Kudos to her for having the balls to tell you.
 
Lots of people have sexual fantasies that can't be accomplished with one sexual partner.

One of my wife's fantasies is to be surrounded by a circle of masturbating men, although I'm fine with her having that fantasy amongst others I certainly won't be accomodating her.
There are also fantasies which are physically impossible! My wife had one of those....quite bizarre.
She fantasized about me boinking her and eating her at the same time, all while overfilling her with a major volume of ejaculate.

We did a 'simulation' with a dildo....as close as I could get!

;)
 
There are also fantasies which are physically impossible! My wife had one of those....quite bizarre.
She fantasized about me boinking her and eating her at the same time, all while overfilling her with a major volume of ejaculate.

We did a 'simulation' with a dildo....as close as I could get!

;)
Don't forget to bring a (small) a...plug next time for her as well. It's important to get it right...

But seriously, I wonder how all these fantasies sit with the "porn" threads where it is generally assumed that porn ruins the men's brains for good, provides unrealistic expectations and causes ED.

Those fantasies originated in women's brains, I presume. Or is it the expectation that this is something that men want and women feel they need to live up to something? I could never get my head around which way it is. And I don't think it matters, as long as everyone is enjoying it.
 
Don't forget to bring a (small) a...plug next time for her as well. It's important to get it right...

But seriously, I wonder how all these fantasies sit with the "porn" threads where it is generally assumed that porn ruins the men's brains for good, provides unrealistic expectations and causes ED.

Those fantasies originated in women's brains, I presume. Or is it the expectation that this is something that men want and women feel they need to live up to something? I could never get my head around which way it is. And I don't think it matters, as long as everyone is enjoying it.
Well....my wife is not a porn fan by any stretch of the imagination. She thinks this stuff up in her own brain!

Took us a few years to figure it out, but she's the kinky one!! I'm running a distant second!

:)
 
Yup. It seems we are blessed; don't say it out too loud otherwise you might scare it away :smile2:
Enjoy.

Though I think the fantasies are there in every person; just takes time, practice and trust to figure them out & press the right buttons.

Mum's the word..... ;)

And, I have to agree. Took 5 years to discover the first one of her fantasizes. That was the right button to learn more later! When she figured out that I was always willing, I learned a lot!!

;)
 
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I think there is an actual fantasy (every woman has one, or a few). The fact that she is worried that it might be scripted if she told you suggests something more elaborate than a pot of honey or an activity. Probably an impersonation or the first thing I mentioned. Have you heard of Clive Bixby and Julianna? :)
IF.... there is a real fantasy she indicated that it would be something that could just happen naturally. So I doubt there would be any theatrics or role playing.
 
IF.... there is a real fantasy she indicated that it would be something that could just happen naturally. So I doubt there would be any theatrics or role playing.


Although if it hasn't happened in 20 years, it doesn't seem like something that occurs naturally, easily! Can you not ask her to guide you?


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