[DWRW5509]

Hello everyone,

I really need some advice from outsiders who don't know either party in this situation...
My husband and I have been married for a year and a half. We are 20 years old and already have a 2 year old little boy. Lately, things with my and my husband have been really bad. He treats me like crap 95% of the time. He has left me plenty of times but comes back. I'm tired of his games and his threats. He lies to me all the time. He thinks he can treat me like dirt because we have a kid, I'm pregnant again, and I am a stay at home mom while he works so I have nothing. He thinks I HAVE to stay with him because I have no job or money and I would have to move back in w/ my parents. I think he has scared me so bad a/b not being able to make it with 2 kids as a single mother so I feel like I have to stay with him. I'm scared to divorce him because he's right, I have no job, no money, he made me quit school to devote my time to being a home maker and I'd have no where to go. I need some advice on what to do. He doesn't want to work things out because he thinks he is never wrong and I should just suck it up and deal with whatever. Has anyone been in this situation?

 

[DWRW5509]

I don't think there is anyone else in his life. He just thinks he can treat me like crap because he "knows I won't leave him" But when I told him to get a divorce, he won't do it.
I thought getting away would help too but last week I left to stay with my parents because he was being mentally abusive and I found out he was lying. But I came back thinking everything would be okay and it obviously isn't. He just doesn't care about anyone but himself because he is very very immature and will not grow up. I don't feel like getting treated like crap until he decides he wants to man up.

 

[DWRW5509]

Yes, you are right, I did allow him to control me from the very beginning so now he thinks he can say/do whatever he wants. Now I just don't know how to make him un-controlling. I guess those are my only two options... I am just very scared that I won't be able to do it on my own. My parents will only help so much, which they shouldn't even have to in the first place, so I feel like I'm trapped and it's making me miserable.

 

[DWRW5509]

Thank you for that advice. You are right tho, he will not like that I am starting to stand up for myself. And he won't like the fact that I want to work. But I agree that I need to plan an exit strategy.. that seems like the best option in my case.