I found out a few weeks ago that my fiancé has been texting another woman for a year, and lying about being together with me. We went crib shopping at IKEA and he took a picture of the crib number on his phone, so when I went to find the number to find the isle there was a picture of this pregnant girl with her boobs half out and smiling all sexy at the camera. I looked further up his pictures and he had stuff from her life like her baby shower, videos of her shower, stored in his phone too. It was a red flag for me so I checked his message history with her. He seemed to just talk to her like a friend, but she asked him to call over and over (which he obviously can't because we live together). She sent him pictures of things from her life, pictures with half her boobs out etc. She is pregnant and due in June and I am pregnant and due in August.
This made me most sad because he lied to her about being with me, so I made him tell her that he was expecting a baby with me too. He said he wouldn't talk to her anymore because it would be too weird after he'd lied to her for a year about being with me. He is still talking to her though, for an hour and a half after I went to bed on Sunday. I looked through his phone because he'd left some of the baby stuff out in the baby room and I asked why it was out. He lied and told me he was showing it to his sister, but his sister hadn't talked to him. Which is why I checked his phone. Idk what to do. I feel really hurt and like he thinks it's okay to lie to me. When I found out he'd been lying to her about being single I went kind of mental and cried and cried because it hurt me so bad he'd lie about being with me. So, I can understand why he'd lie to me about talking to her to avoid a conflict. I just don't think the lying is okay at all. I don't know how to approach him, or even if it's worth it to approach him.
This made me most sad because he lied to her about being with me, so I made him tell her that he was expecting a baby with me too. He said he wouldn't talk to her anymore because it would be too weird after he'd lied to her for a year about being with me. He is still talking to her though, for an hour and a half after I went to bed on Sunday. I looked through his phone because he'd left some of the baby stuff out in the baby room and I asked why it was out. He lied and told me he was showing it to his sister, but his sister hadn't talked to him. Which is why I checked his phone. Idk what to do. I feel really hurt and like he thinks it's okay to lie to me. When I found out he'd been lying to her about being single I went kind of mental and cried and cried because it hurt me so bad he'd lie about being with me. So, I can understand why he'd lie to me about talking to her to avoid a conflict. I just don't think the lying is okay at all. I don't know how to approach him, or even if it's worth it to approach him.
