my husband and i have been married 8 years. during this time we had a few ups and downs, but generally were happy. we have a three year old. i am two months pregnant. i found out i was pregnant immediately. i told my husband. he started acting really distant. a couple of weeks later he told me he was "detatched" and didnt want to stay married. i went to a friend's house for two days with my son. i came back, and asked why and he told me he was having a relationship with another woman. claims there was no sex involved, but i dont know how you could be so attached to someone if not. my husband was always very sexual, and until the last minute, always told me he was attracted to me. he had bought me a nook recently and got mad that i was reading alot. well, i looked up his phone records and found out that he had been having an affair for about 2 months. she moved back to her hometown which is about seven hours away. then he told me he doesnt love me anymore and wants a divorce. i have cried a lot for the past three weeks. he has been off and on crying and begging me to talk to him (never saying sorry or i love you) and being really hostile. i was a stay at home mom and so have no income. i took all of our cash, because his grandmother told me to. she also told me to get a lawyer, which i have done. he is avoiding the temporary orders. my lawyer told me not to allow visitation until he get the documents. he is constantly telling me i am blackmailing him, and that our marriage has nothing to do with our son. meanwhile, the other woman has moved back into town with her two children (which she is dragging all over the place). i called her husband (whom she has been in a bitter custody battle for over a year. she sent me a horrible email telling me this is not my show, and that she would be my children's stepmother. she was rubbing it in my face that they love each other more than they ever knew they could love. her husband tells me she has been with 3, count 'em, 3 men since their divorce started, and said the same about every man. she left one of them because he almost died and was unable to work. she has told my husband numerous lies about her life and her social status ( i know this because he told me things when they were "just friends"). i am starting to loose faith in my husband and don't think that i want him back regardless. it is so much harder being a parent and pregnant to just let go. he has not said a thing about her. every time i say something he just ignores it and doesnt respond. he has never told me he loves this woman, but is constantly texting and calling her. i don't want to be a single mother and don't want my children to not know their father. i do not blame myself for any of this, just feel powerless to do anything. after begging him for a week, being rude for another, i have cut off all contact. i hope that he misses us.