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Gents,
I’m looking for help filling in some of the gaps in my post-relationship recovery. It ended ugly with her deciding to betray me just as we were planning our wedding. I’ve previously solicited advice in CWI in the threads below.
Given the circumstances, I think I’m in a pretty good position…
I also obsess over what happened to me and probably should really cut down on my visits to CWI. I also screwed up my credit this year by letting myself get so depressed that I wasn’t paying my bills (good friend with perfect credit has helped me out with an action plan for that). And finally, if a doctor drew my blood right now he’d finding nothing but hemoglobin, beer and bar food.
So I think I need something else in my life, and I’m pretty open to suggestions. The old standby will be a gym membership and a weight regimen, but I’d love to hear about other suggestions… something a bit more holistic. Any of you guys here taken up a hobby or an exercise regimen that accelerated the recovery process? I really am at a crossroads here and I could either come out better than I’ve even been or wind up a sad sack of a human being.
No pressure on those suggestions, guys.
I’m looking for help filling in some of the gaps in my post-relationship recovery. It ended ugly with her deciding to betray me just as we were planning our wedding. I’ve previously solicited advice in CWI in the threads below.
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/53415-am-i-giving-up-too-easily.html
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/57204-xwf-goes-lovely-vacation.html
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/57204-xwf-goes-lovely-vacation.html
Given the circumstances, I think I’m in a pretty good position…
- I decided against R (seriously, I finally pop the question and 4 months later she’s boning some dude at a conference? Goodbye.)
- I moved out, got my own place and have been NC with the xWF
- I got a promotion at work and have thrown myself into the new gig
- I have been asked to take a “working vacation” abroad (basically representing the home office in a new endevor)
- I am seeing a therapist 2x a month
- I have been seeing other women (but I am getting a little attached to one in particular)
- I have been spending a lot of time with my guy friends and improving those friendships
- I have been seeing/talking much more with my FOO and extended family
I also obsess over what happened to me and probably should really cut down on my visits to CWI. I also screwed up my credit this year by letting myself get so depressed that I wasn’t paying my bills (good friend with perfect credit has helped me out with an action plan for that). And finally, if a doctor drew my blood right now he’d finding nothing but hemoglobin, beer and bar food.
So I think I need something else in my life, and I’m pretty open to suggestions. The old standby will be a gym membership and a weight regimen, but I’d love to hear about other suggestions… something a bit more holistic. Any of you guys here taken up a hobby or an exercise regimen that accelerated the recovery process? I really am at a crossroads here and I could either come out better than I’ve even been or wind up a sad sack of a human being.
No pressure on those suggestions, guys.