We get along very well for the most part, enjoy the same things. I am mostly happy when I'm not worried about this.

(I know, it sounds crazy) This stuff has just flared up again over the last few months
and I really need to be sure nothing is happening.We've been married almost 30 years, I'm in my mid-50s, no real career to speak of, and deal with severe anxiety & other health issues which have made it hard to stay in the working world. That's what scares me the most - I'd lose my health insurance if we divorced, I don't know how I'd support myself.