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How do you feel about porn?

  • Like it and watch it myself!

    Votes: 43 55.8%
  • Don't watch it, but see no issue with it and don't mind if my man watches.

    Votes: 8 10.4%
  • Don't like it, but I'll put up with it.

    Votes: 6 7.8%
  • Absolutely unacceptable. A relationship deal breaker.

    Votes: 20 26.0%
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I'm not a fan of porn and don't like it. I really don't understand the fantasy of it all. I also don't like the way women are looked at and treated in these videos. It's just not my cup of tea.
 

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Ok, I voted the "unacceptable....dealbreaker" option, but there is more to it than that. We agreed long ago, no porn in our marriage. Because of our agreement, I would give him a chance to get rid of it. If he didn't, then that would be a dealbreaker. He knows how I feel about it in our marriage.
 

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In my youth, I tried to be the Christian good girl, I didn't care for Porn, I remember us putting some on & thinking "Oh that is so disgusting, how can anyone want to watch that !!" and I associated everything ....sexually degrading, sinful, stripperish, people using each other - with Pornography... but

Yet....I ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS was turned on & loved a steamy Hot Rated R sex scene (couldn't get enough of that)....and.... Romance Novels, bring them on !! (I do see these as woman's porn).... so the erotic brain still had it's wheels turning....but my beliefs were conflicted with what I enjoyed. I felt sinful but yet, I LOVED & craved Lust.

I started to LOVE visual Porn 4 yrs ago when I reached my sexual PEAK in midlife..... I swear it would have been a deal breaker FOR ME had my husband been uptight about it, I don't think I could have controlled myself -the allure was that strong for me......that has to be what young men go through - in this way, I understand them.

So I was very thankful my husband is the way he is... not too conservative minded & judgemental...or we would have had some real issues I believe getting through that. So we happily enjoyed it together & had a BLAST with it. Rented it for about 10 months.... In our marriage, we save every orgasm for each other (or almost).... I've had more without him -than he's had without me over the years - which is terribly ODD ... compared to the norm.....that's us!

We both prefer the Soft stuff... I still go for the Romantically geared Porn...not at all easy to find..when renting , a lot of hit or miss there. Anything that depicts, what we see as degrading, neither of us would enjoy it....like at all.

My husband has never been a Hard Core man....which I do so appreciate.
 

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I can't watch it. I can't stand to look at any others mans manhood other then my husbands. I could use, look and play with my own husbands manhood all day long too(wouldn't that be nice to actually have the time to do so).

Porn and looking at other naked people is not for me. I also only fantasize about my husband and no other man as well. This may be strange, but it works for me.

My husband doesn't look at porn either. He's one of the first man I've known not to look at porn.
 

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depends on the genre.
erotica or sensual 'porn' is fine by me. X erotica makes some pretty nice vids. more feminine-ish taste of adult video.
but that's all i can tolerate.
i found these videos as extra motivation to keep my body in shape.
i watch it alone because STBXH is not into porn and he thinks porn is ridiculous.
 

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I have watched porn in the past & used it when I was younger. Now just see it as pathetic - the garbage kids use to jerk off. Grew out of it.

Holds no appeal at all. Hubby uses it & if he would do it & leave me alone (sexually) maybe I would have a more favorable view.
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No way. I don't want to see another naked man. And I don't want my husband seeing other naked women. Exclusivity is important to both of us and we agreed before marriage that, even in our fantasies, we would be utterly faithful to each other.
 

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I actually find it a turn off.

H looks from time to time... it's never been an issue though. He's never rejected me in preference to porn or spent insane amounts of time on it.

It's just a non-issue for us.
 

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I think marraige should be sexual exclusive and be just between those two people.. Watching porn, getting a roused by and getting off on other people is not sexual exclusivity.

I also think the majority of porn is terribly degrading to women and from a human rights standpoint I definitely wouldn't use it.
I worry about the state of the world and the ability of men and women to empathize and care about each other when women are treated so cruelly and degraded and used as cum buckets and its all ok because people got their rocks off.
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It dehumanises women. Men into porn in a big way is a red flag for any woman. If she is looking for a decent man ditch the porn users.

A man heavilly into porn can become like an addict on crack using more and more porn and moving on to the next level.. Prostitutes or meet ups with people on the net. Woman are associated as animals, bunnies, cows and seen as game for an easy lay, a score. a sport.
 

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I think marraige should be sexual exclusive and be just between those two people.. Watching porn, getting a roused by and getting off on other people is not sexual exclusivity.

I also think the majority of porn is terribly degrading to women and from a human rights standpoint I definitely wouldn't use it.
I worry about the state of the world and the ability of men and women to empathize and care about each other when women are treated so cruelly and degraded and used as cum buckets and its all ok because people got their rocks off.
Alot of talk about Exclusivity on here from those who are against a little porn viewing.....

When I read this post...it dawned on me... this is how I view CASUAL SEX .... I feel this ruins empathy for human beings... just for pleasure, for empowerment, for experience... we get our Rocks off.... but the majority, even those against porn, seem to think Casual sex is fine & dandy. I can't wrap the brain around that...

Here is my thoughts to this .... I don't care what others do... I may not want to marry a Porn star....or those who think Casual sex is "all good, empowering & praised for experience".... I'm against that...there in lies one of my personal deal breakers....but if others enjoy that lifestyle/ choose it, maybe don't want to get married......I'll withhold the judgement..... but I'm also not going to deny that what they are showing off ....isn't arousing... cause it damn well IS! If they want to indulge...package & sell it...it's a free country... It's also human to enjoy some of that. I do not view husbands or wives in a bad light (or less) for enjoying a little Porn..... some have great marriages.

Exclusivity is important to both of us and we agreed before marriage that, even in our fantasies, we would be utterly faithful to each other.
See I feel a little fantasy is normal, it's human......We'll never be able to Police our spouses mind..... but IF we can acknowledge that fantasy is not betrayal... we are more likely to share our sexual fantasies with each other....which I would see as very very healthy.

When we started renting...I went after all the ..."How To's"..."Loving Sex" Dvd's ...Instructional... some with real married couples.. / pro monogamy.....I just wanted to breath in everything/anything I feel we missed over the years....seeking new & creative heights...My motivation was to spice US up....so they were "visual"....

So what .... we all got the same equipment -a little varied in size/hariness/ maybe shape....... it's the man attached to it in the here & now laying in my bed kissing my neck that makes it oh so personal, emotional, beautiful, special & exclusive, that the
gushes.

Overwhelmingly every fantasy I have is me & him going back in time - young, vibrant & sexually frisky doing many things we should have done back then.

Not long ago, we were laying there together, I was watching a little porn...I looked him in the eyes....& said .... "Tell me the truth.....does it bother you I enjoy looking at these men?" - he says to me with a :) ..."Why ...are you slipping out on me going to the studio when I am at work?".... He again assured me ..no, not at all. And I've told him, the day he no longer cares to view some hotties, is the day I know he'll need Test treatment.. No, I'd prefer a faithful "dirty old man" any day. I'll keep him!

The exclusivity we have with each other is very very special - beings we've only been with each other in this lifetime...he has my heart, my soul and only he has touched my intimate places... You can't get no more "exclusive" than that.

If there is one thing I absolutely know (for my own marriage ~ not speaking for others)... it is that a little porn viewing has NOT.... in any way, shape or form stolen anything beautiful from us.
 

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If you are upset by women being degraded in porn try watching gay porn. It can be very hot. Also there is a whole genre of supposedly straight men supposedly doing gay porn for money that I like. I guess it's seeing the tables turned.
When I was younger I liked it a lot. Now that I'm older and I'm old enough to me the mother of the people in the video it's hard to watch. I like mature or amateur. I feel gross watching 19 year olds, they look like kids.
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We enjoy watching porn in our sex life, we dont see a problem with it at all. We don't like the hardcore gaping hole type, and while we love the creamp** type, its a big turn off when it becomes a squirt-it-in-a-glass type! EWWW! There is some beautiful softer style porn out there thats romantic and highly sensual. Everyone's different based on different life experiences but both of our have been great and we use that to our advantage ;)
 

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There is some beautiful softer style porn out there thats romantic and highly sensual.
I found some of these highly passionate
... In those renting months....when I come across something this beautiful, I got excited about it..


Erotic Strip Dance DVD - Loving Sex DVD Series
This is about learning how to do erotic dancing for your husband....each step.. pure delightful ending... a slow sensual passionate making love scene....beautiful.

Playgirl: Sexual Sensations That couple on the cover of this DVD is the scene, I think it was called Marital Bliss or something....very slow, loving and passionate.

Candida Royalle's Three Daughters Scene at the end (always at the end...very passionate). Candida Royalle Dvd's were all geared towards Romantic / women's porn.


Everyone's different based on different life experiences but both of our have been great and we use that to our advantage ;)
My life experience was Religious beliefs had me feeling any type of Lust or fantasy was sinful...this belief hindered me sexually....and I regret these things very much :( ...I suppose there is some balance to all of this, and maybe I have not found it - yet ... but enjoying a little porn, in our experience, it was a grand ride.
 
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