Hello everyone. this is my first post. i've search the forums for a situation like mine, but haven't really found anything. so here is my issue: we have been married for 27 months. i have a 14 y/o stepdaughter, and a 5 month old son. i expect conflict in marriage, but nothing we can't handle. we don't have any major issues, like cheating or financial issues, but we argure over the most trivial things, and it tends to end with the police being called. we have been in our new home for about 21 or 22 months. since then, everytime we have an argument, my wife calls the police, or have her daughter call the police. i have never hit her or threaten her, so i have never been arrested. she is very combative in the arguments and its impossible to talk to her. she also takes all of our savings and moves it to her personal account, leaving me with nothing. i do admit my faults in that once i get upset, i have very aggressive tone in my voice. i've cut down the cursing, but i still have a bad mouth. the reason i get so mad is because when i try to discuss an issue with her, everything is my fault. she is very condencending. i'm immature. i can't communicate. i need help. i don't see myself. on and on. i get sick of it and become extremely irate. we have gone to counseling, but separately, which she doesn't really go because she is very self-righteous and thinks her **** don't stink. i'm at the point now where i am ok with divorcing. oh, and she always calls her mother and aunt to the scene along with the police. she has recorded me several times without my knowledge and played this for the police, but they never do anything because i just talk alot of ****, but i never threaten her. she takes my son and leaves for like 4 and 5 days at a time and i don't know where they are. she does not work and is climbing up our debt. i don't know what to do. should i go ahead and file for divorce? of course there is more, but i could spend hours writing about this. the worst thing is that she always calls the police to try and paint me as some insane monster who needs to go to jail. that and taking my son are two things i can't handle. i still love her, but on the flip side, i am sick of this crap. please advise. i'll answer any questions you may have, and i will always admit my fault. thank you.