You know, I would recommend doing something like this if it was your 14 year old daughter and some slob was sniffing around her inappropriately. Then big daddy SHOULD come in and protect his little girl.[/B]
Been waiting for someone to recommend this. I agree 1000% percent; however, be smart about this Andrew - my situation a while back was not too dissimilar and I went a little overboard and it ended up costing me in the long run but could have been worse all things considering. You know this guys number, you can find out where he lives. Call him and tell him in no uncertain terms to stay way from your wife. Then work on fixing things with your woman. Hope thinhs work out for you.
But that is not the case at all here.
She's a grown ass woman, not some child who needs to be protected.
And as a grown ass woman, she's CHOOSING and ENCOURAGING and actively PARTICIPATING in staying romantically engaged with this guy. And that means she wants his attention and is seeking it. And unless I missed it, the OP hasn't said one single thing about her crying and cringing in fear and claiming she doesn't want the attention of this other guy. Nor has he said anything about her begging him to protect her from this 'predator.'
Therefore, she's engaging with this guy because she wants to. Period.
There is NO pride or dignity at ALL in the OP chasing down some guy and telling him to stay away from his wife when SHE'S the one happily engaging with him. It just makes the OP look like a desperate, weak fool who can't get his own wife to stop chasing someone else and respect him on his own merits so he has to go strong-arm the other party into stopping it. OP, do you honestly think she's going to magically love you just because you scared off her boyfriend? I mean, seriously? The whole reason he exists is because she's so unhappy, so she's not going to snap out of some fake 'fog' and suddenly love you again. Scaring him off isn't going to solve your problems. I mean, come on.
He's not your problem, OP. HE IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM. Your wife's complete disrespect and disregard towards YOU is your problem.