hi my name is Javier i am 23 years old and my wife is 20 we been married for 6 months now i love her so much but she does things that hurt me so much. she has a very dark past her parents left her since she was 11 years and felt into a foster house and got treated really bad when she was 15 she meet this girl she lived in a bad neighborhood and meet a guy he was 24 and got her pregnant the guy abused her so much he was mexican and since i am mexican she hates us all. she decided to leave the guy and left him the baby because she was 16 at the time and had nothing for the baby she finally found somewhere to go with her grandparent and never had the support of any of the family members so she is been alone most of her life and never receive real love her brother died the closest to her died i was there for her and she feels that she is so unlucky and that nothing good comes to her. i meet her when she was 17 years i was 20 she told me she liked me and i told her that when she was 18 we can talk about dating so she turn we started dating she told me everything she is been throw and i felt soo bad for here and this was not pity i was more like woow this girl really needs someone that can love her and be there for her.a year and half later she told me that we should get married and to be honest there is nothing i want more in this world that to make her happy so we did end up being married. right now we live in my mothers house and she is always there for us when we need my cousing also lives with us and my cousing is like the older brother i never had but he always had a problem with her all the time they fight and is gotten into a point where i cant eve hang out with him because she gets mad she hates him with a passion her words. well here are the issues well here are the issues my mom loves her and want her to be closer to us but she excludes herself she doesnt want to do nothing with us is like she is living alone she stays in the room all day i cant tell her nothing or she gets extremely mad screams at me and call me alll the things in the book i spoil her in everything but if she doesn't get what she want. is hell for me. i work and she doenst care if i eat she doensnt tell me if i need something nothing. she doesnt work she has all day to do something in the house but if i tell her to help out she gets soo mad saying why do i have to do this is not my house so i end up cleaning and tell my mom that we did it together so she doent think bad about her and i tell he we have to be united we are a family but all she says is that she doesnt have to imprees no one she doesnt care she doesnt even clean our room when i come from work i have to clean it and the sad part is that she is looking at me cleaning and doesn't care or tell me u need help nothing everyday she want to eat out i have to give her money she goes out with her friend and doesn't even tell me i have to force her to say hello to my family members she thinks she can do what ever she want go out when she want come back when she want she doesn't take me serious doesn't respect when i tell her no if i tell her no is hell for me she threats me that she will leave me and i dont want that i want to make her happy because i know if she leaves me she potentially can go in the wrong path i lover but she does so many cruel things to me like kicks me out of the car the Fword is her favorite work i want her to change and be more kind when she gets mad at someone that doesn't want to fix things she want to hate that person. i bought her a car and ever since she is been going out with her friends which is fine but she never tells me i come from work and i see the room a mess and she is not there and comes back at 3 or 4 am and when she heads out she doesn't tell my mom nothing is like she is living alone we worry about her but she doesnt see that tonight i came from work specting her to be in the house after a long talk about this issue and she didnt even care i left to work came back and she was gone she didnt told me a word i feel disrespected and that she doesnt appreciate everything i have done or my mom. my mom has took she shopping and nails hair done all that and she stills doesnt see what she has here with us i really need some opinions about this or what can i do she has a horrible temper like right now is 1 am and she is still gone if she comes back and i start telling her hey why didnt u tell me u were going out she would probably say uhhhh im not a kid anymore i can do what i want how are you to tell me what to do just go outside the room and leave me alone go and spend some time with your family. and that just kills me and she knows that too i am destroy, sad all the time and depress about this situation someone please give me some help or advice.