WH & I are in the very early stages of healing. I recently uncovered his A over the past 2 weeks and more TT's this past week. I am new to this whole process and we are in MC (2nd session will be this coming Tuesday.) I keep reading that the WS is supposed to be doing the heavy-lifting. Can someone please define what that means exactly. I will note that he is very attentive, completely transparent and doing & saying all of the right things at the moment. Is that what I should be looking for? Anything else? He keeps telling me not to have any apologies or guilt for him, this was all his doing and he accepts full responsibility. I just want to make sure as we go through this process that I am "educated" in so far as what I should expect from him.