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I have been thinking, since I can't get my mind off things (also Oxy's kicking... back injury) I thought I'd think about things.
Sometimes I go into analysis mode.
Why begging and pleading works AGAINST you, even though logically speaking, seems like it should work.
If your spouse is leaving you, most of the time it seems, they're leaving you for something/someone else, right? Whether it be to be single, or to be with a man they think is better.
When you beg and plead to a spouse like that, it strengthens their self image and boosts confidence in everything, from what they THINK they want, and confidence in getting what they are after.
If they think they're going to find someone else (not an OP yet)
they think they're going after BETTER! SO! When you beg and plead, it makes them believe they are worth it!
IF they are going because they already have a OP, they already feel that it's the better choice, right? AGAIN! Begging and Pleading enforces their decision that they ARE BETTER and makes them believe it true, so they go after what they think is better.
Just some thoughts I was putting together. We always hear people say it pushes them away, and it seems some people don't understand why. So this is how I perceive it.
Sometimes I go into analysis mode.
Why begging and pleading works AGAINST you, even though logically speaking, seems like it should work.
If your spouse is leaving you, most of the time it seems, they're leaving you for something/someone else, right? Whether it be to be single, or to be with a man they think is better.
When you beg and plead to a spouse like that, it strengthens their self image and boosts confidence in everything, from what they THINK they want, and confidence in getting what they are after.
If they think they're going to find someone else (not an OP yet)
they think they're going after BETTER! SO! When you beg and plead, it makes them believe they are worth it!
IF they are going because they already have a OP, they already feel that it's the better choice, right? AGAIN! Begging and Pleading enforces their decision that they ARE BETTER and makes them believe it true, so they go after what they think is better.
Just some thoughts I was putting together. We always hear people say it pushes them away, and it seems some people don't understand why. So this is how I perceive it.