ok so not too long ago my wife and I went through some rough times.... I have done my "dirty deeds" and so has she, all before the marriage... We are both young (me being 24 her 22) and recently moved to the city from small town country living.... I worked out of town a lot, which put a huge wedge between us.. She thinks that spending time at the lake, and fishing with single men is ok... I give her my opinion and ask, "how would you feel if it were me." The response.."I wouldn't mind!!!" Which both she and I know is a load of bull. This strikes suspicious thoughts and jealousy into my head, which I try and talk to her about but I am just being "stupid" After a while She begs me to come home and find a new job, and I do. Just to be told when I get home, that nothing big but something has happened in my absence. She tells me She doesn't feel she is "in Love" with me. And this CRUSHES ME.. but I never gave up, and We have both decided work "US" and forget the past... But now she is at it again texting single men... one just happens to be her boss... Keep in mind I am not supposed to look through her phone, "that is her only privacy" but when I do the texts between her and these men have been deleted.. Not the ones from her family or girlfriends just these in particular.... When I bring it up to her I am just being jealous and have nothing to worry about... "She is here with me, and married me not them" when I ask "why do you just delete the messages from these guys and not from anyone else" the response is "I don't just delete the ones from them, my memory gets full and have to free up something." Like that makes any sense. I know that she has had conversation with these men cuz when you click send new message and start to insert a number or name, it shows the names and numbers of the most recent texts... I don't know what to think or do anymore... I want to believe her, I want to be with this woman. I love this woman.. Am I just being foolish, or am I being played for a fool..