I've posted before about my sexless marriage frequency = twice a month at most. One of my major problems is that I like to plan to wear lingerie, candles, a passionate night so to speak. He has lately been a waking me up in the middle of the night for sex, when it happens. Which I like either way considering you take what you can get and he is considerate to make sure my needs are met when he does this, it's not just a quick romp. So I tried to plan a romanitc night for his birthday and he didn't want it. Another slap in the face for me. I just don't know if I should stop getting dressed up for him and how to deal with the rejection. I work myself up to "I look sexy, the mood is right at least for me, so he's going to want it". Then when he doesn't, it hurts like hell.