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Hi All,
I have been reading through many posts in this section just to get a little idea on how to work things out with my girl.
I had proposed my girlfriends of 1 & 1/2 years for marriage but now i am having seconds thoughts about being with her. I am feeling constricted and tied down with her. I feel i have to always come up to her expectations and the day we dont have fights about not meeting her expectations is really a good day for me.
My girlfriend is a very introvert. She doesnt have many friends and i would be the only close friend that she has. She also has a very bad relationship with her family and that affects me as well since i am scared that she might not adjust with my family and we would also start having the same problems. I am a Indian so i stay with my parents and take care of them financially and emotionally.
I also feel that if i leave her she will really breakdown as she doesnt really have anywhere to go , her family doesnt want to keep her and she will leave their house in a couple of months but even have any other home or a job to fend for herself.
I tried breaking up with her once but she almost jumped out of my car on an expressway as she didnt want to live. Now i dont know what to do , i really dont want to hurt her or see her miserable so i have agreed to stay with her and marry her in 4 months. BUT i really do not know if i will stay happy in this marriage.
I was initially attracted to her because i saw an innocent girl sitting alone in a party and that she opened up to me completely without even me trying but i really do not know why i am feeling really bound to her, like i am burdened.
I may not be able to explain my point right now but i may help you understand my situation better if i am asked some questions. Maybe i need some counseling i dont know. BTW i am 26 and have a high paying steady job , so there are no financial issues in my life which might pull me away from marriage. Just need some help badly.
I have been reading through many posts in this section just to get a little idea on how to work things out with my girl.
I had proposed my girlfriends of 1 & 1/2 years for marriage but now i am having seconds thoughts about being with her. I am feeling constricted and tied down with her. I feel i have to always come up to her expectations and the day we dont have fights about not meeting her expectations is really a good day for me.
My girlfriend is a very introvert. She doesnt have many friends and i would be the only close friend that she has. She also has a very bad relationship with her family and that affects me as well since i am scared that she might not adjust with my family and we would also start having the same problems. I am a Indian so i stay with my parents and take care of them financially and emotionally.
I also feel that if i leave her she will really breakdown as she doesnt really have anywhere to go , her family doesnt want to keep her and she will leave their house in a couple of months but even have any other home or a job to fend for herself.
I tried breaking up with her once but she almost jumped out of my car on an expressway as she didnt want to live. Now i dont know what to do , i really dont want to hurt her or see her miserable so i have agreed to stay with her and marry her in 4 months. BUT i really do not know if i will stay happy in this marriage.
I was initially attracted to her because i saw an innocent girl sitting alone in a party and that she opened up to me completely without even me trying but i really do not know why i am feeling really bound to her, like i am burdened.
I may not be able to explain my point right now but i may help you understand my situation better if i am asked some questions. Maybe i need some counseling i dont know. BTW i am 26 and have a high paying steady job , so there are no financial issues in my life which might pull me away from marriage. Just need some help badly.