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Well my other threads have been locked, probably due to not being updated, otherwise I would have posted on one of them.

I discovered today that less is more.

I had her very close. She was grabbing the sheets with her head thrown back and I could tell she was climbing the mountain to the peak.

I've been paying attention and I've noticed that penetrating far less than I can is very good for her.

It takes a bit of restraint on my part but going shallow in missionary is driving her to the edge.

I'm an eternal optimist so I haven't given up on causing Mrs. C to have her first PIVO.

Hopefully more updates to follow and maybe eventually the holy grail! 馃槈馃槑
 

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Sounds like you might be hitting her G-Spot.

Could be a gushing O.

Mmmmmm, gushing O's are FUN!
We have been a work in progress.

We've always had a pretty great sex life but she has never been able to have a PIVO with anyone.

I would just like to have the experience with her and we seem to be getting pretty close.

She isn't a communicator so I've had to figure a lot out on my own with trial, error and research.
 

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Try rubbing a little warming lube in the area about 5-10 minutes before the deed. I have also found that lightly rubbing a piece of ice on the upper thighs and all around the valley of 馃槝, then very lightly blowing on the area wakes every nerve in the area.
 

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It really helps if the wife will communicate in the moment. Her body movements indicate, but her whispering what is working confirms. Cowgirl used to be the best for her, but arthritis has made that uncomfortable for long enough to do the job.
No communication at all. Not during and not after.

The only time she will talk is if there is discomfort or pain and we need to switch up positions.

It's just who she is. She will smile, giggle and joke sometimes but actually talking about it must be a turn off for her.

It definitely makes things more challenging.馃樀鈥嶐煉
 

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Try rubbing a little warming lube in the area about 5-10 minutes before the deed. I have also found that lightly rubbing a piece of ice on the upper thighs and all around the valley of 馃槝, then very lightly blowing on the area wakes every nerve in the area.
I think she will go for the lube. If I come at her with an ice cube, I'm going to get smacked or worse, tickled!!!馃槺
 

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Well my other threads have been locked, probably due to not being updated, otherwise I would have posted on one of them.

I discovered today that less is more.

I had her very close. She was grabbing the sheets with her head thrown back and I could tell she was climbing the mountain to the peak.

I've been paying attention and I've noticed that penetrating far less than I can is very good for her.

It takes a bit of restraint on my part but going shallow in missionary is driving her to the edge.

I'm an eternal optimist so I haven't given up on causing Mrs. C to have her first PIVO.

Hopefully more updates to follow and maybe eventually the holy grail! 馃槈馃槑
She's gonna have to do that last part. You can give her the tools to get her there which looks like you are doing, but she's gonna have to get over the edge herself. It's not like porn where the guy just thrust as fast as he can and she cums all over....at least not in my experience.
 

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She's gonna have to do that last part. You can give her the tools to get her there which looks like you are doing, but she's gonna have to get over the edge herself. It's not like porn where the guy just thrust as fast as he can and she cums all over....at least not in my experience.
No worries. Porn is very far from our equation.馃槈
 

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There's a really sensitive spot on top close to our opening that's very sensitive. I've noticed that when we stop moving for a few seconds here and there it's even more so, so it may be this spot you're hitting when you don't go in as far.

I never even realized this until my current bf. This kind of O isn't a G Spot.... it's a vaginal one and they are different. I had my first one ever with him and the first time it happened my thought was what the hell was that?

Doesn't happen all the time but when it does it's amazing 馃槉
 

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There's a really sensitive spot on top close to our opening that's very sensitive. I've noticed that when we stop moving for a few seconds here and there it's even more so, so it may be this spot you're hitting when you don't go in as far.

I never even realized this until my current bf. This kind of O isn't a G Spot.... it's a vaginal one and they are different. I had my first one ever with him and the first time it happened my thought was what the hell was that?

Doesn't happen all the time but when it does it's amazing 馃槉
Thanks for the scoop. This could be what's getting her so close.

I've been paying close attention and the shallow movements have been producing the most joy and last time, I definitely saw her climbing her way to the edge. Hoping for it and having fun regardless 馃檪
 

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There's a really sensitive spot on top close to our opening that's very sensitive. I've noticed that when we stop moving for a few seconds here and there it's even more so, so it may be this spot you're hitting when you don't go in as far.

I never even realized this until my current bf. This kind of O isn't a G Spot.... it's a vaginal one and they are different. I had my first one ever with him and the first time it happened my thought was what the hell was that?

Doesn't happen all the time but when it does it's amazing 馃槉
This ^^^
 

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Congrats @ConanHub ! Is the wife into making it happen too?

I think thats the key. Even if she doesn't say anything, I bet she is.

As an example, my wife has said she has never O'd from PIV so I don't believe she ever will. I have tried tons of different things and each time (while I am trying mind you!) she is saying "Its not going to happen. It never has."

And with that lack of effort or interest on her part, I am almost certain it never will.

Kind of like some guy sitting on his couch eating chips saying "I'll never finish the Boston Marathon" Yeah, no ****! LOL

But if your wife is into it, I bet it happens!
 

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Congrats @ConanHub ! Is the wife into making it happen too?

I think thats the key. Even if she doesn't say anything, I bet she is.

As an example, my wife has said she has never O'd from PIV so I don't believe she ever will. I have tried tons of different things and each time (while I am trying mind you!) she is saying "Its not going to happen. It never has."

And with that lack of effort or interest on her part, I am almost certain it never will.

Kind of like some guy sitting on his couch eating chips saying "I'll never finish the Boston Marathon" Yeah, no ****! LOL

But if your wife is into it, I bet it happens!
She doesn't really have a choice. LoL! She doesn't talk about it but she definitely pops her cork when I push her over the edge regardless of what I'm doing.

She is apparently fine if it happens.
 

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I found the strongest one my wife has where she will carry on for maybe 40 seconds and I can feel her spasming it鈥檚 from that more shallow depth where like @lifeistooshort said where a lot of times I stop and then let her move how she wants鈥 (oh yeah and with a vibrator at the same time she controls).

I have never felt her clamping on the inside like that really any other way. I鈥檇 almost say the more I move the worse it is, letting her control the penetration how she wants works much better for her.
 

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Best of success with your endeavors.
Haven鈥檛 read the other threads.
Although mind is the key Increasing blood to the nether regions through lower body workout beforehand, kegels, or other type foreplay can help as well.
 
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