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My 7 year old daughter is a picky eater. I always told myself that I would not be the type of parent that did the "different meals" thing for her and us. But day after day I find myself doing just that. :mad:

She will only eat mac & cheese, hotdogs/corn dogs, plain cheeseburger ONLY from McDonalds, cheese pizza, grilled cheese sammich, chicken nuggets or strips and the occassional chicken leg, ham, bacon, grits, certain cereals with NO milk, green beans, broccoli with cheese, rice, the occassional waffles or pancakes, corn on the cob (the only way she'll eat corn), cheese quesadillas, peaches, bananas, strawberries.....I'm trying to think of other things. :scratchhead:

Granted she will eat different things, I just don't think it's enough. She is pretty good at trying new and different things, but usually does not like them.

I cannot get her to eat things we eat like lasagna, cheeseburgers we make at home, eggs, different pasta dishes that we make including spaghetti, tacos, country style steak with gravy, and the vast assortment of food we have for breakfast/lunch/dinner....without listing it all out. You get the idea....we are not picky eaters and have many different things for our meals.

How can I stop this madness? I know I was a picky eater as a child and I grew out of it! :) Being the youngest of 6, Mom didn't make special meals for each child. We ate what we got and that was it. I need to get to that, but the transition won't be easy.

Help! :eek:
 

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I'm so OVER this. I was a picky eater and I felt my parents tortured me with the whole 'this is what's for dinner so eat it or go hungry' mentality. And like you I outgrew it.

I have 3 kids and while I'm not a short order cook I do take their likes into consideration when making meals. If nothing else I'll serve bread, mac-n-cheese, or offer them a sandwich if they don't like the main dish.

And you know what? My laid back attitude has paid off. My older two have gotten better about eating and like you I'm just left with a picky 7 year old. LOL

I believe it's up to the kids to decide what they will eat. My job is to provide well balanced meals and stock the kitchen with healthy options. What they choose to put in their bodies isn't up to me. I can encourage but that's about it. Even treats. They've learned through natural consequences that overeating junk makes them sick so they moderate themselves. It's very cool!
 

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Be happy that she does like a variety of other things. Try and stock some of that in the house. Teach her to make mac n cheese or just keep her favorite fruits and veggies stocked. If she doesn't like what you make for dinner, then she can eat a banana. It is not going to kill her and she will probably out grow this.

The only time I think you should worry is when it is limited to chicken nuggets like my nephew.
 

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As Bill would say “I feel your pain”.

Our 9 year old daughter seems to have sensory issues along with a fear of new foods.

For a typical dinner, she will have chicken, oatmeal, squash, raspberries, blackberries, banana, broccoli….

The problem is that we have to blenderize it so she can drink it…As a baby, she would never eat no matter what we did. She wasn’t putting on weight and she was soooo skinny. The doctors wouldn’t really listen, so we did what we had to do. So for some strange reason, if we put her food in a blender, she would drink dinner. Now at 9 years old, you would think she would outgrow this….all the b-day parties she goes to and still doesn’t want to try pizza. I don’t get it. Chicken nuggets? Out of the queston. Several YEARS ago I made her eat a nugget from McDonalds and she still remembers that.


I don't want to tell you to do that. If it's veggies you want het to eat, add raw veggies to a smoothie.

Still, it's more important to eat food. For us, it is soo hard to visit friends for dinner.
 

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Be happy that she does like a variety of other things. Try and stock some of that in the house. Teach her to make mac n cheese or just keep her favorite fruits and veggies stocked. If she doesn't like what you make for dinner, then she can eat a banana. It is not going to kill her and she will probably out grow this.

The only time I think you should worry is when it is limited to chicken nuggets like my nephew.
I do stock her favs in the house. I'm just trying to cut down/out the making of 2 different meals. Maybe we should just start eating chicken nuggets with her! :rofl:
 

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As Bill would say “I feel your pain”.

Our 9 year old daughter seems to have sensory issues along with a fear of new foods.

For a typical dinner, she will have chicken, oatmeal, squash, raspberries, blackberries, banana, broccoli….

The problem is that we have to blenderize it so she can drink it…As a baby, she would never eat no matter what we did. She wasn’t putting on weight and she was soooo skinny. The doctors wouldn’t really listen, so we did what we had to do. So for some strange reason, if we put her food in a blender, she would drink dinner. Now at 9 years old, you would think she would outgrow this….all the b-day parties she goes to and still doesn’t want to try pizza. I don’t get it. Chicken nuggets? Out of the queston. Several YEARS ago I made her eat a nugget from McDonalds and she still remembers that.


I don't want to tell you to do that. If it's veggies you want het to eat, add raw veggies to a smoothie.

Still, it's more important to eat food. For us, it is soo hard to visit friends for dinner.
Wow what an ordeal. :eek: Sorry you have to go through that. A friend of mine's little girl had food issues and they did some food therapy with her. It worked and she's now eating many different things. She's now 3.

My girl has tried oatmeal and does not like it.

She will eat raw carrots dipped in Ranch dressing. :)
 

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She tried a piece of spinach the other night and said it looked like leaves. I told her she was right and that it was good for her, but she just wrinkled up her nose at it.
 

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We did have her in therapy. They just told us she was a picky eater.

The story below fits our daughter to a T...

We did call them to get more info. It was something like $1000 a day. The parents are part of the therapy too. I think in the story it took several weeks to get the girl to take a bite of pizza.

Who the heck has to force/bribe a child to eat pizza? "If you take a bite of pizza, you can have some chocolate..."

My wife and I actually started eating pizza once a week to encourage her to want to try it. It's been a year now and she still has no desire to even try a slice...


We also add spinach to her smoothies. Whats funny is that our daughter knows exactly what in it and she drinks it.

Your doing great Southern Wife. It's good that you put new food in front of her and at least she will try it. eventually she may like you pasta dishes.
Fear of Food | Video - ABC News
 

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Your doing great Southern Wife. It's good that you put new food in front of her and at least she will try it. eventually she may like you pasta dishes.
Fear of Food | Video - ABC News
You're probably right and thanks for your input. I'm just really trying to cook ONE meal....for all of us.

She did try, and likes, cauliflower with cheese. Maybe I should just put cheese on everything for her! :) She'll go to the fridge and get some shredded cheese and eat it!
 

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I deal with this at home too.

An observation I've made in skimming this thread is this:

It appears no matter what approach the parent takes, the child remains a picky eatter...until they aren't.

Therefore I'm concluding that the best approach, as a parent, is whatever approach is less stressful/draining to the parent. The child seems unaffected by the approach, on the other hand the parent seems to be much more concerns/stressed/upset/drained. So fix the problem by focusing on making the parent's life easier.

Practice acceptance, recognize this is out of the parent's control....
 

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My 7 year old daughter is a picky eater. I always told myself that I would not be the type of parent that did the "different meals" thing for her and us. But day after day I find myself doing just that. :mad:

She will only eat mac & cheese, hotdogs/corn dogs, plain cheeseburger ONLY from McDonalds, cheese pizza, grilled cheese sammich, chicken nuggets or strips and the occassional chicken leg, ham, bacon, grits, certain cereals with NO milk, green beans, broccoli with cheese, rice, the occassional waffles or pancakes, corn on the cob (the only way she'll eat corn), cheese quesadillas, peaches, bananas, strawberries.....I'm trying to think of other things. :scratchhead:

Granted she will eat different things, I just don't think it's enough. She is pretty good at trying new and different things, but usually does not like them.

I cannot get her to eat things we eat like lasagna, cheeseburgers we make at home, eggs, different pasta dishes that we make including spaghetti, tacos, country style steak with gravy, and the vast assortment of food we have for breakfast/lunch/dinner....without listing it all out. You get the idea....we are not picky eaters and have many different things for our meals.

How can I stop this madness? I know I was a picky eater as a child and I grew out of it! :) Being the youngest of 6, Mom didn't make special meals for each child. We ate what we got and that was it. I need to get to that, but the transition won't be easy.

Help! :eek:
wow, your DD is a lot less picky than my DS! He won't eat any kind of assembled food, no quality meals, no cooked vegetables. I can get healthy food into him, it just has to be a certain way...

So I often make two suppers because I want to eat something tasty once in awhile. And I too was a VERY picky eater as a child, when my parents tried to outstubborn me I went on a week long hunger strike and they nearly had to put my in the hospital - instead they just put some hotdogs and carrot sticks in front of me and I was as content as could be again.

So I know trying to force him into something just won't do anything but make my life unnecessarily difficult, so I will continue trying to mix up his daily serving of raw veggies, chicken nuggets, grilled cheese and fruit. When he gets on a streak of something new I will appreciate it while it lasts and he decides to quit that particular food.
 

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I guess you're right, Lon (mark your calendar! :rofl: ) J/K!!

Perhaps I'm worrying over nothing and eventually we'll be down to one meal for all of us. In the meantime, I'll be thankful that she does eat a pretty good variety, and chalk it up to "she'll grow out of it"! :)
 

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I guess you're right, Lon (mark your calendar! :rofl: ) J/K!!

Perhaps I'm worrying over nothing and eventually we'll be down to one meal for all of us. In the meantime, I'll be thankful that she does eat a pretty good variety, and chalk it up to "she'll grow out of it"! :)
Mark my calendar? It's already premarked for every day, I'm always right.

Yes it is no fun not having a kid that will sit down for a cohesive family meal like the kind perfect tv families have.
 

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My H tried to sneak DD the PB&J after I told her if she wasn't eating, she'd go to bed without dinner. I intercepted. She had to try one bite of everything on her plate - according to her doctor, more than enough to give her the required nutrition. She has always at least tried everything - or else she went to bed without dinner. Today she'll eat anything from sushi to BBQ to chicken nuggets.
 
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