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Well, I tried to talk to my soon to be ex husband a few weeks ago about divorce. It's time. We've tried to make it work over and over and this is where we are at. Our talk did not go well. I didn't get much out but, "maybe since you're home early, this would be a good time to talk..." and he stormed out of the house in anger.
After 3 days of silence, he went back to normal. He told me he was going to sleep in our bed that night. I said that was fine, but nothing had changed. Just because he was back to talking to me again, nothing had changed. I was still moving out. He said ok, but slept on the couch. I truly think he believes if he ignores the problem long enough, everything will go back to the way it was. But, that's what got us here in the first place.
I've been gone this past week with family. We've talked once via text. I came home last night because I need to get things taken care of here. Today, I started packing. It's hard to get started, but I just grabbed a box and started putting things in. Gotta start somewhere, right?
So, I guess it's off to my parents after I'm done packing. Need to save money. I've been making some money writing online, but not a steady income. And, I'm sure I am stuck with our new car payments although I don't have a job anymore and won't have a license after October. But, he has never been financially stable, so no sense in leaving the car to him.
Hoping we can sit down soon and figure out if we are going to have separate lawyers, or just file the papers, or what? And what bills is he still responsible for? And who is taking what? At least we don't have kids in this mix. I'm not looking forward to the talk because I'm afraid he'll just blow up and leave. As for me, I'm fairly calm now because I am ready to move on and re start my life. I'm ready to move on and find an open honest relationship where we can communicate and have sex....Sounds weird maybe, but no sex for 2 years and married for 2 years kinda sucks after a while.
So, packing away. Hope this all goes fast and smooth.
After 3 days of silence, he went back to normal. He told me he was going to sleep in our bed that night. I said that was fine, but nothing had changed. Just because he was back to talking to me again, nothing had changed. I was still moving out. He said ok, but slept on the couch. I truly think he believes if he ignores the problem long enough, everything will go back to the way it was. But, that's what got us here in the first place.
I've been gone this past week with family. We've talked once via text. I came home last night because I need to get things taken care of here. Today, I started packing. It's hard to get started, but I just grabbed a box and started putting things in. Gotta start somewhere, right?
So, I guess it's off to my parents after I'm done packing. Need to save money. I've been making some money writing online, but not a steady income. And, I'm sure I am stuck with our new car payments although I don't have a job anymore and won't have a license after October. But, he has never been financially stable, so no sense in leaving the car to him.
Hoping we can sit down soon and figure out if we are going to have separate lawyers, or just file the papers, or what? And what bills is he still responsible for? And who is taking what? At least we don't have kids in this mix. I'm not looking forward to the talk because I'm afraid he'll just blow up and leave. As for me, I'm fairly calm now because I am ready to move on and re start my life. I'm ready to move on and find an open honest relationship where we can communicate and have sex....Sounds weird maybe, but no sex for 2 years and married for 2 years kinda sucks after a while.
So, packing away. Hope this all goes fast and smooth.