Did you try to solve your marital problems with your husband before choosing to get emotional/ physical with OM? It seems No.
Others will chime in.
Others will chime in.
The affair.So what do you want me to address 1st, the maritial problem or the affair you are having?
OK, you kept your H informed about your depression and matters that followed?I did actually. Not with counselor but I did. He did not listen. He laughed when I went through depression and showed me no support. I was depressed because I was so lonely. I have nobody but him where we live. I told him so many times, wrote emails, wrote to therapist and showed him her answer. Nothing has changed.
Yes, he knew about my depression. He made fun of me because of that. One time, when I cried while we were fighting, I told him that I felt so bad that I was thinking about ending my life for a second. My therapist told me not to solve temporary problems with permanent solution. She helped me a lot.OK, you kept your H informed about your depression and matters that followed?
Did you tell him about the PA with a man with ED?
I am going to marriage counseling next week. I scheduled it couple weeks ago. He said he won't go. I am ok with it for now, because it is my session only. I will see if I get him there after it. I hope I will. I know it would help him as well. If he won't at all, it just says a lot on its own.Oh, he sick alright. In more ways than you can imagine.
Then
First you let your husband physically abuse you. You abuse him emotionally, the serial cheater abuses you.
See a pattern?
Drop the loose cannonball
Get psych helfp ASAP
THEN if you want to save your marriage (its already in the krapper) see if your spouse will go but first be sure he gets psych help too to stop the physical abuse.
Oh, dont admit the affair while he is still in abuse mode
If you are confused, it makes two of us. I guess I want to know if there is any future for me and him after divorce.I'm confused, you seem to be look for advice on how you can have a more successful affair? On that front I have zero advice, other than to ask yourself why you would bewitch a guy who has ED, has a history of cheating with married women, and is himself a multiple divorced looser?
Or are you actually looking to stop cheating, come clean to your husband, and fix your marriage..
Shaggy, this is what I was trying to tell OP. She missed it.The OM is pond scum. He's broken up other marriages. The other women he played into marrying him finally got smart and ditched him.
You need to see him for the horrible disaster he is.
As for your current marriage, come clean to him. Let him know you are having an affair and are Stopping it. That you want him to come to MC to work through your betrayal.
Or dump them both?:scratchhead:I'm confused, you seem to be look for advice on how you can have a more successful affair? On that front I have zero advice, other than to ask yourself why you would bewitch a guy who has ED, has a history of cheating with married women, and is himself a multiple divorced looser?
Or are you actually looking to stop cheating, come clean to your husband, and fix your marriage..
:iagree::iagree::iagree:First you let your husband physically abuse you. You abuse him emotionally, the serial cheater abuses you.
See a pattern?
Drop the loose cannonball
Get psych helfp ASAP
No shes leaving something out.Neither man is good for you, assuming you're being honest about everything. You should get them both out of your life, then spend time figuring out why you keep putting yourself in bad relationship scenarios.
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