Im a 34 year old father of 2 (full custody of 11 yo) and Im just looking for some place to vent and gather advice so here goes...I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years now and things are coming to an end it seems. I wanna start by saying it's my fault Im here (I own that) but I want to make things right and dont want to lose her. Im in the National Guard and everytime I deploy or go off on training we grow apart. I dont have my daughter during those times so I meet friends and hang out. My girlfriend feels put on the back burner and we fight about it. There was infidelity on my part 2 years ago during training but never again since. She is hurt over the past and cant get past it. I live with her currently and now she's starting to ignore me. Im always with my daughter now when Im home and dont go out or anything. The friends I thought I had are nowhere to be found. We live 2 houses down from her sister and brother-in-law who is my best friend(or so I think) and he's in the military as well. My girlfriend is always at their house now when she gets off work. My best friend is playing the "Im staying out of it role" which is aggravating to me, and I believe it's a lie. I basically feel isolated and dont know if I should leave or stay and endure this punishment for cheating. She hates confrontation and wont tell me to leave, but wont talk to me about our situation. Im lost please and feel out of control. Please help!