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MY husband thinks I should be good and orgasm in his 5/10 min time without foreplay
Your husband is an idiot, or just selfish and lazy.

My wife has never (and I'm pretty confident that she will never) orgasmed from anything being inserted. Even with foreplay it can take up to an hour, and even then sometimes it just won't happen. I'm not saying that last part is "normal" but being unable to orgasm from PIV absolutely is normal.
 

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Your husband might have watched too much porn. Where did he get this idea??

A lot of women can't orgasm from just PIV. I sure can't. PIV plus fingers on clit works sometimes. Hand jobs or oral work best and are almost always successful, but occasionally if for some reason I can't relax or get out of my own head, even those might not work. And foreplay is always a necessity.
 

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That’s a whole other bigger issue than how many people orgasm via oral.
Your husband might have watched too much porn. Where did he get this idea??

A lot of women can't orgasm from just PIV. I sure can't. PIV plus fingers on clit works sometimes. Hand jobs or oral work best and are almost always successful, but occasionally if for some reason I can't relax or get out of my own head, even those might not work. And foreplay is always a necessity.
Yes he has just made me feel like I'm not worthy of his time
 

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PIV works for me if the guy is patient and also has girth. The layer isn’t a must, but if he has that, it’s guaranteed unless he is speedy Gonzales.
Hopefully he’s not. 😂😛
Well, the woman has to want to have an O as well to ensure that guarantee. If she doesn't nothing is going to do it.
 

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Every woman is different. It's difficult for me to orgasm from oral. I have no problem with PIV or other stimulation at the right angle, but I definitely need foreplay.
Pretty much the same for me, although foreplay isn't always necessary if my mood is right. Receiving oral is probably my least favourite activity, it doesn't do much for me at all.
 

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I would add a woman's orgasm is also controlled a lot by her attitude and desire to have one. A guy can typically cum from just physical contact but not all women are like that. They have to WANT to have an orgasm.
There's truth to that, but sometimes even if I want to have one, I can be too distracted or tired to get there. Personally I need to concentrate in order to get to the point of orgasm, and I don't think I'm the only woman like that. Though even if I'm too distracted or tired to get all the way to orgasm, sex usually still feels good.
 

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There's truth to that, but sometimes even if I want to have one, I can be too distracted or tired to get there. Personally I need to concentrate in order to get to the point of orgasm, and I don't think I'm the only woman like that. Though even if I'm too distracted or tired to get all the way to orgasm, sex usually still feels good.
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Yes he has just made me feel like I'm not worthy of his time
a female orgasm has a lot of moving parts! My wife doesn’t enjoy (or won’t relax enough to enjoy) oral. So after our foreplay she wants me to finish first, and I usually do. Then it’s a team effort for her! My fingers, encouraging words, teasing, her bullet, and the smells of what we just did, the fluids sure help, and still there is no guarantee! No time frame, we continue until we have success, or she cannot take any more. I don’t give up on her, Even if my hand is numb and my fingers throb, the moment of her orgasm is worth the effort! We have a 98% success rate I’d say!
 

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a female orgasm has a lot of moving parts! My wife does enjoy (or won’t relax enough to enjoy) oral. So after our foreplay she wants me to finish first, and I usually do. Then it’s a team effort for her! My fingers, encouraging words, teasing, her bullet, and the smells of what we just did, the fluids sure help, and still there is no guarantee! No time frame, we continue until we have success, or she cannot take any more. I don’t give up on her, Even if my hand is numb and my fingers throb, the moment of her orgasm is worth the effort! We have a 98% success rate I’d say!
dude. 😍 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻
 
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