Depends - Opposites in what ....
1. Temperament (Introvert marries Extrovert)
2. Love Languages (Touch ~ Time ~ Acts of Service ~ Gifts ~ Words of Affirmation)
3. Beliefs / Religion (Catholic marries an Atheist)- then they have kids
4. Traditional views Marriage (wife staying home) vs Modern -Wife working
5. Political - Republican marries Democrat
6. Partier marries a Homebody
7. One dreams of being a Parent - the others sees a Prison sentence
8. Spender who lives for the moment marries a thrifty Saver -thinking of the future
9. Clean freak marries a Messy
10.
A High Driver marries a Low Driver - often leads to hurt & resentment .
11. Hopeless Romantic marries one who spits on Romance, sees it all as overrated, unnecessary fairy tale BS.
All of the above have the posibility to cause a WAR within a marriage...
But if you have a good # of those in agreement...you may find it more workable....
This is where me & mine are Opposite... I married a man who is a SUPERB match for what I am... we ARE opposite in temperament... I am a
Choleric (extroverted, assertive, likes to get things done NOW, I can be brash at times-if I am not careful, not the most patient woman around...this has it's good & it's bad believe me)...
....and I married a sweet Loving patient Laid back
Phlegmatic man (calm, dry sense of humor, easier to please, naturally more passive , introverted)... .
Our secondary temperament is both
Melancholy so in this way... we share some of the same. But when taking temperament tests, he virtually has 0 Choleric in him and I have hardly any Phlegmatic in me. We couldn't be further apart. I've read articles that said often these 2 make a good match for marriage though - attracting to each other. Because his strengths are
MY weaknesses & My strengths are
HIS weaknesses ...we seem to admire this --even NEED it in each other... So when we come together.. we make a glorious whole.
Explaining the 4 temperaments
HERE
My personal thread on this here with test links >>
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/genera...ments-our-spouses-better-understand-them.html
Where we are
NOT opposite is... our Love Languages are in the same order.... our goals, hopes, dreams, beliefs, values, we're both homebodies, how we spend $$, both wanted a family, how to raise them..bla bla bla...basically all of the above on that list.... Even Politically we are both Independents. We messed it up in the Sex area missing each other but found we are the same in this as well -after opening the dialog ~ finally.
So on the Introvert/ Extrovert front, I feel this can be very healthy....so long as we strive to understand why the other is the way they are. But never underestimate
Compatibility on these other important issues.
If I married a man with MY temperament, I don't feel it would fair as well... and if my husband married a woman as laid back as himself ...likely pretty uneventful ...he needs me to REV him up and I need him to calm me down sometimes. It works very well for us.