The hardest part for you is the off switch. You need to learn how to limit your contact. There is no reason to fight. He has shown you he is a cad. Do not engage him except for the kids. When he whines about his time and trouble, learn how to say “I am sorry you feel that way” and walk off. He can’t whine if you are not there. Get an ipod, phone or whatever and a nice pait of noise cancelling headphones and drown him out.
Yes, it is hard being alone.
Yes, you just got out of surgery and your mortality is at the top of your mind.
He is NOT sending you mixed signals. It is you wanting more from a guy who refuses to give you anything.
He’s an emotional vampire for lack of a better term, he enjoys your misery whether you love him or not.
I’d take this post, by itself to the therapist let them help you unpack it.
The kids are his, not mine. They’re terrible. Thank God they don’t live here anymore but still causing problems I want no part of.
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