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It’s not mean, I’m married to a similar man, who is selfish and does things their way. In fact I’m convinced man has NPD, fits the bill in every way.Hello? Anyone? I know post is long but could use some support. Feel like what I told him was mean? For me, it took a very long time to put that together, and I thought that I put it together firmly but nicely as well? And of course I’m feeling guilty for it and bad for it?
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You've been getting roughly the same advice for a while now. Make him leave. Don't ask him...MAKE HIM. Take his crap and put it out the door and he can take it and leave. If he makes a stink about it, call the police and have him removed. He's not on the lease so he can't stay there if you don't want him to. Call the super/management and ask to have the locks changed if he won't give the key back. Cite domestic violence for the reason if they NEED one to have the locks changed...they will do it quickly after that.Hi everyone - so tonight I have decided once and for all that I’m done. I want him gone and I mean this. After he made a promise to show me different he still went to the bar and gambled. I get that social life is important but he doesn’t stop. I get he got home at a decent hour but he still broke a promise. I don’t trust him. So I don’t know what you all suggest I do to get him out?
Can he say I let him stay here and he’s my husband and give me hard time? He’s not on the lease and the final straw for me to leave was when he pushed me. What to do?
I know, I know I shouldn’t have let him come stay here at all but I felt sorry because he was on strike at work, etc. huge mistake I know.
I’m panicking now at how I do this. I can’t find his car keys that have the apartment key so I could keep him out.
Do I just tell him tomorrow to take his things. He has a certain time to get what he needs tomorrow and then have him leave the key? I can then box up the rest and leave it somewhere? Then I will call to have the locks changed.
If he gives me a hard time do I say I’ll have the cops remove him? I have photos of when he pushed me and will use that I i have to? Of course I don’t want to but I think my wrist may be broken Because even though it happened a while ago it still hurts anytime I bump it into something and my right thigh still has bumps inside of it and hurts if it touches something. So every time Im reminded of that, I am scared and don’t feel safe. I just don’t feel safe anymore with him period. Sober or not.
Could I use the photos now to police even though it happened at the end of December?
I’m super sad and I know I’m a pain and difficult to please but there is just something that’s telling me it’s time. I want to be alone for once. I don’t want to live this way anymore. We’re not a match. He has too many issues and so do I. But we don’t mesh.
Just want to focus on me. I did something I’ve always wanted to
do and couldn’t cause of him was to get a puppy. She comes home in mid December. I’m so happy! But I’m so afraid to have him around cause if he has a moment and hurts it I would die! It’s so sad I even feel this way but it’s the truth.
I haven’t felt this strong in a while. What do I need to do? I need to get him out.