Unlike most of you on here, I am the one that cheated. My husband and I had been separated on and off for 3-4 months and we had filed for divorce about 2 weeks before the affair. We were separated because he was very self centered and only thought about himself. I brought 6 children into the relationship and he has 3. He lied about financial things before we were married (he owes $40,000 in back child support and owes the IRS). He is a musician and wanted to use his money to go to the recording studio or shoot music videos. I had a problem with this because I was having to use my money to not only take care of my children but his as well. I approached him many times telling him we needed to make changes but he had no problem when I was the one writing the rent check every month. He was also bringing his kids over every weekend and sleeping all day leaving me to take care of all 9 children alone. All of this led to a lot of resentment and eventually to our separation. During our separation, I began talking to the father of my children who lives about 1500 miles away because he is military. He became my go to person when I needed someone to complain to. To make a long story short, when he came to visit his children for Christmas, we slept together. My husband and I had filed for divorce but were thinking we maybe had made the wrong decision. So, I told my husband what happened and he of course, was very angry. He told me he wants to work things out but he said he will never step foot in our house again(because its where the affair happened). He said if we were to work things out, I would have to break a lease that is in my name only and get a new place with him. I don't want to be sued by the homeowners but I also want to make my marriage work. Any advice? We are set to begin marriage counseling this week.