I have been married for 12 years this year. While dating my husband, I had experienced catty and passive aggressive behavior from his brother's wife. She is the type that everyone is afraid of thus she has full control and I'm over it. I talked to him and even his Mom but he never addressed it and forced them on me. I conformed for the sake of peace, my mistake. After dealing with life changing events, I blew up because I felt unheard and lost control. He showed that he was a fine with making me look like the bad guy while he threw me under the bus all because he was concerned about his relationship with his brother and nieces and nephews. I thought abt leaving several times because that was a huge character issue for me but at the time, I was to weak to leave. We have since moved passed it BUT I really don't care to be around his family. I also feel like if I choose to keep my distance that we might as well start preparing for divorce because family is important but I did my part by trying to let him know how I felt but he didn't honor my feelings. His mom is planning a trip for her Dad's bday and wants us all to go but I am highly uncomfortable around his family now. I've been praying for guidance in this situation because there is no resolve for me whatsoever. I am open to opinions about how to approach this trip situation. I have since deleted his brother and mother from my social media because even being nice to my BIL triggers his wife to start poking at me passive aggressively and I was tired of posting memes that confirm how they have all made me feel. I'm not mad at anyone but now it's very awkward but I had to protect my peace.