I've been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years. Just recently he asked me to marry him and I accepted. The relationship is very good...virtually no conflict, both of us are accommodating and considerate to each other. He's really a kind, wonderful man and we are compatible on so many levels. Because of past bad experiences on both sides, we've agreed to be totally transparent with each other and we've shared email passwords, etc. It's a nice, peaceful relationship based on trust. So here's the problem: the other day I was using his computer and, simply out of curiosity, I looked at his email. Yes, it was a completely *%$chy thing to do and I felt guilty the whole time, but I guess I wanted to test the "transparency" thing. I found numerous old emails to women he had dated in the past via online dating sites. I knew about most of these women so that was no surprise. Except there were more of them than I realized. It seems like he spent the better part of two years emailing various women (sometimes five or six different women per day) who he barely knew and pouring out his heart to them in a very personal way. I guess what really bothered me was he used almost verbatim the same lines he's used with me....telling them how special they were and starting every email with "Hi Beautiful" just like he does with me. It was almost like he recycled the same old script over and over, and I suddenly felt like everything he'd ever said to me was fabricated and that I was just the latest in a long line of women. I have to point out that he has not been very successful with women in the past and now I wonder if it's because he comes on too strongly too quickly. He'd date someone for two or three weeks and start telling feeding them this saccharine gushiness. I don't really understand how someone can say things like that after just a few weeks of knowing a person...it takes me a long time to get close. But he did the same thing to me...after just a few weeks I was the most wonderful woman in the world and he'd never known anyone like me. But he apparently felt the same way about quite a few other women. Now, after reading those emails, nothing he says feels genuine. I'm worried that I've gotten involved with a desperate man who'll say anything to flatter and manipulate a woman. Am I overreacting? The sheer volume of sappy emails he wrote came across as pathetic and I just feel generally kind of skeeved out by him now. And who the hell saves literally dozens of emails to random women once they're in a serious relationship?