[KathyBatesel]

An acquaintance recently married a woman who has a kid. This woman is what I call a "career victim," probably BPD, though I haven't known her long or well enough to really know.

Anyway, long story short... After an argument, he discovered a bunch of lights out, flipped the breaker back on, and it tripped again. Reason: A paint can key was jammed into the light socket by her.

While I know GCFIs are there to prevent electrocutions, I can't help but wonder if she was thinking this would kill him or ... ???

Thoughts?

 

[homebuilder]

Would be much more likely to have got her
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[EleGirl]

Not sure she was thinking at all.. but instead just trying to do something to get at him.

 

[KathyBatesel]

It's a bizarre situation, but I can't help but wonder at it. It doesn't even make any "dysfunctional" sense to me at all, but I'm worried because a little girl lives there, too.

Homebuilder, that's what I thought at first, but the fact that it was done late at night, and she never mentioned it to her husband but instead he found it, made me wonder if she was trying to concoct a plan to kill him!

 

[EleGirl]

What happened to her last (or last few) partners? Are they all still alive and well?

 

[KathyBatesel]

Strangely enough, I know her last partner (her husband) better than I know her. He was the captain of my pool league. He was married to her for 11 years. They divorced a few years ago at the urging of the guy who just married her!

The two men are friendly. My interactions with her have nearly always been when both men are present. When her ex heard the story, he said "I said a long time ago that something would happen. I know her better than anyone, and I know what she's capable of."

The ex is almost desperately needy for approval, but quite narcissistic, too. He's a very good pool player, and the entire league will tell you so, but the entire league will also say they can't stand being around him. I feel sorry for him in a way, because he cannot tolerate the least bit of independence in those he superficially cares about, and he can't get why they don't like him. His mother died recently and he isn't handling it well. He is getting ready to start therapy over it.

My personal opinion has been that the woman is still hung up on guy #1, who is also the father of her child. She barely has anything to do with the child, although she acts all lovey-dovey when the girl's around. If she didn't pawn the child off to her new husband, her ex, and the neighbors every chance she got it might be believable.

She flies into a rage at both men at every conceivable moment. She gets especially angry when she's mad at #1 and #2 won't get mad with her. When the men aren't around, she talks well of them in vague, sweeping statements. "He's got a good heart." But anytime she describes an actual action by one of them, it's filled with hateful comments. For what it's worth, if any female makes a slightly flirty remark like a new opponent who asked, "Did you miss that shot so you can watch my butt?" she will forever hate the woman and take it as a personal insult even though the woman has never met either of them and hasn't made an effort to.

I don't know about other relationships she may have had.

 

[Chris Taylor]

Could the kid have stuck it in the light socket? I did stuff like that plenty of times when I was a kid.

 

[wiigirl]

Not sure she was thinking at all.. but instead just trying to do something to get at him.

That was my first thought.

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[IrishGirlVA]

Could the kid have stuck it in the light socket? I did stuff like that plenty of times when I was a kid.

This was my first thought, too. And maybe she didn't want her husband getting mad at the kid, she took the blame? Which is odd because what excuse would a grown woman have for doing such a thing?

But if she did do it then yeah, I'd think she had the death wish on herself, not the husband.

I hope your acquaintence is smart enough to get away if this odd behavior continues.

 

[KathyBatesel]

I had that thought at first too, and asked both him and the girl. Kid was asleep and swears she didn't do it. He said it was done between 4 am and 9 am. The woman also denies doing it. Neither of them struck me as lying about it. She's a lonely, desperate kid, too, but she isn't a defiant girl as far as I've seen. Argumentative, yeah, but defiant no.

 

[Uptown]

Kathy, you're starting to sound like Angela Lansbury in an episode of Murder, She Wrote. Instead of writing from Kansas City, you should be sitting at a typewritter in a small coastal town in Maine. But, before moving across country, your first objective should be to find the electrocuted body, LOL.