WH had a short term PA while away on business, with ongoing EA after his return
I am now four and a half months post d-day, and now 2 months of NC with OW, (as far as I know!!)
I have posted the gist of the story here
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/55368-when-will-i-start-feel-better.html
And here
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/56191-triggers.html
Things have been going ok, I had thought the good days were starting to outnumber the bad. Today is a bad day..
Now he wants to go away for work again, he was talking about going for 3 consecutive nights next week.
He was saying he would use a tracker device on his iPhone and keep in close contact. I don't want him to go, but I'm used to being a very accommodating person, and I feel bad, like I'm imposing, holding him back etc.
I have been struggling. I'm not working very much, but I'm lucky I have a very understanding employer and I work in sales and people keep buying things with minimal effort only part. I have been going out of my way and skipping work to spend time with my WH. He is very busy with work and stressed about that, I feel very unimportant by comparison.
I just texted him
I feel like your life would be so much better without me, you could do whatever you want whenever you want, with whomever you want. I feel as important as something you would like to scrap off the bottom of your shoe.
He responded
That's not nice. Of course you are the most important. I'm sorry. How am I making you feel like that. My work is just work and only that. Nothing more about doing what I want. I love you always xxxxx
What to do, how do I/we get past this?? Help please!
I am now four and a half months post d-day, and now 2 months of NC with OW, (as far as I know!!)
I have posted the gist of the story here
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/55368-when-will-i-start-feel-better.html
And here
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/56191-triggers.html
Things have been going ok, I had thought the good days were starting to outnumber the bad. Today is a bad day..
Now he wants to go away for work again, he was talking about going for 3 consecutive nights next week.
He was saying he would use a tracker device on his iPhone and keep in close contact. I don't want him to go, but I'm used to being a very accommodating person, and I feel bad, like I'm imposing, holding him back etc.
I have been struggling. I'm not working very much, but I'm lucky I have a very understanding employer and I work in sales and people keep buying things with minimal effort only part. I have been going out of my way and skipping work to spend time with my WH. He is very busy with work and stressed about that, I feel very unimportant by comparison.
I just texted him
I feel like your life would be so much better without me, you could do whatever you want whenever you want, with whomever you want. I feel as important as something you would like to scrap off the bottom of your shoe.
He responded
That's not nice. Of course you are the most important. I'm sorry. How am I making you feel like that. My work is just work and only that. Nothing more about doing what I want. I love you always xxxxx
What to do, how do I/we get past this?? Help please!