Just want to call you out on this one.Our marriage was rocky for years and the last year of it I was having an affair.
What could have become of you marriage if you put the effort and affection you did for your affair partner into loving your husband?
There is a common thread among ALL waywards. In order to justify their actions, they vilify the current spouse and distort their view of the marriage to where "we were never happy". This is the mind trying to justify the terrible actions of cheating and lying and relieve some of the guilt.
It's called rewriting history and every wayward does it.
There is no such thing as an affair "that had nothing to do with the breakup of the marriage".