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I know I'm not the first to be cheated on and I am hoping that someone with experience can tell me how they coped with their cheating husband.
A couple years ago I received an email from a girl saying she and my boyfriend had kissed. It was high school I was angry and told him to never speak to me again. But he said she was lying and even though I didn't quite believe him we got back together. You know how high school goes.
We got engaged before he left for the army. I live a few states away as a student and only see him occasionally. I again received an email from another girl stating she and my fiance had been having a relationship and he had pushed her sexually. She claimed she had been in his room and he had taken her on dates. He denied this but admitted to getting drunk at a party one night and kissing her. I became very jealous and suspicious and after going through his phone found inappropriate messages to various girls. He cried and apologized over and over telling me how stupid and sorry he was. I hated him so much I told him to leave me alone. However a friend of his talked me into giving him another chance.
I thought I would never be able to look at him again but a year later we got married. I loved him and he swore he would never hurt me again. We got married young and he blames it on being young and stupid. Although the last incident was a year ago I find myself unable to stop thinking about it. I want to forgive him and move on with our lives but I can't seem to put it aside. I constantly check his phone and skype in secret but haven't found anything even remotely inappropriate. He even deleted his facebook to get away from those girls. (But I can't help but wonder if it was just to keep them from finding out about me). Every time we argue I bring it up and he says its embarrassing and hurtful to relive it and sticks to his story. But I just don't buy it and it makes me sick to even think about. I haven't talked to anyone because I'm so hurt and embarrassed but I can't hold it in any longer; it's ruining my marriage!
Any advice would be so appreciated I just don't know what to do.
A couple years ago I received an email from a girl saying she and my boyfriend had kissed. It was high school I was angry and told him to never speak to me again. But he said she was lying and even though I didn't quite believe him we got back together. You know how high school goes.
We got engaged before he left for the army. I live a few states away as a student and only see him occasionally. I again received an email from another girl stating she and my fiance had been having a relationship and he had pushed her sexually. She claimed she had been in his room and he had taken her on dates. He denied this but admitted to getting drunk at a party one night and kissing her. I became very jealous and suspicious and after going through his phone found inappropriate messages to various girls. He cried and apologized over and over telling me how stupid and sorry he was. I hated him so much I told him to leave me alone. However a friend of his talked me into giving him another chance.
I thought I would never be able to look at him again but a year later we got married. I loved him and he swore he would never hurt me again. We got married young and he blames it on being young and stupid. Although the last incident was a year ago I find myself unable to stop thinking about it. I want to forgive him and move on with our lives but I can't seem to put it aside. I constantly check his phone and skype in secret but haven't found anything even remotely inappropriate. He even deleted his facebook to get away from those girls. (But I can't help but wonder if it was just to keep them from finding out about me). Every time we argue I bring it up and he says its embarrassing and hurtful to relive it and sticks to his story. But I just don't buy it and it makes me sick to even think about. I haven't talked to anyone because I'm so hurt and embarrassed but I can't hold it in any longer; it's ruining my marriage!
Any advice would be so appreciated I just don't know what to do.