Hi all i am new to this and hope that some one can give me some advise i am no 23 years old and my husband is 29. We started dating in 2003 and in 2007 he moved to Australia from our previouse country , things were going great back then , but when he said they were moving , we ended it for a while but becuase we were next door neighbours in this time we worked out we wanted to be together and that we would make it work so in short in 2008 i came over to Aus to visit him and was here 3 months in those 3 months we got engaged and i went back home to sort out all the paperwork and in 2009 i moved to Australia to be with him In 2009 we got married and have been married almost 4 years now. Thing is for those 4 years we have lived on our own for about 6 months everything after that we have been living with his parents after years and years of fighting about this we managed to buy a house that is being built at the moment so we will be out of there next year January thank goodness!Dont get me wrong we all get allong in the house but i feel ive done more and been patient for long enough now regarding that and having to live with his parents for so long. I dont have any family here apart from his. But with all that long story short where everything went wrong in a way first time , when we met i looked pretty good i mean i was only like 15 not even so when i moved to Aus i still looked good in the time we lived alone i thought id spice things up in the bedroom and dress as a school girl as i did this he did not respond to this at all , when i asked him why not he said to me maybe if i lost more weight it would help , i just left it at that this was back in 2009 beginning 2010. Then we went from having sex ones a week to ones a year to nothing . We have had so many fights about this but only becuase back in 2011 Dec he went off !! at me saying its my weight he cannot handle im not fat and its putting him off , back then i was about 79Kg since then we have had no sex and if you count it all up its almost 2.5 years since we did it for the enjoy ment and not for sake of argument. We both have agreed that in a way we know that this has hurt us and we dont feel the same but i just feel i have now lost 12 KG since then and everyone else is telling me how good i look but still no responce from him i am out of options he is more than happy to receive oral sex but he just not like anything more when i asked him about it again he said maybe he just does not like it "this i do not believe" he loves sex and he has said before he misses it with me but still he cant do it again. I crave him and we fight so much about all this im just so hurt that he said that , im to over weight and still now 12 kg less im still not good enough but he keeps on mentioning he would mind me with a nother girl in bed so he can watch and join in i just feel how would he want that if he cant even touch me in that way, Is this an exuce for him wanting to sleep with someone else or not. I have thougt of doing this to mabye see if it will help but im so scared it gets worse and ill always think he would like someone else and not me , i have tried to end things before but some how we just get over it and move on he never ever said that he was sorry for it but he also does not want to talk about it im just over feeling used in my marriage things have picked up and we have had fun in the room but still no sex i just dont know any advise.