So my husband, does not do much around the house, we have a gardener for the lawn. He complains about but takes out the trash once a week. Omg if he has to take in the cans poor him. I do the laundry, cook, work FT, clean the house, do the grocery shopping and pay all the bills. He smokes 20 dollar cigars and plays on his phone all day. There are tons of things needing to be fixed and he ignores our 100K pool its building up hard calcification on the sides. Yesterday we got in some packages and I asked him to take the boxes out. There they sat on the table, I said could you please take out the boxes. He said, :Its Not My Mess, its yours. My problem is I have to do everything and its getting to me. I asked what do you do? He does not even work right now. He told me he picks up dog droppings in the yard and does the dishes ( The sink is full ). I have a couple other blogs on here about him. Nothing is changing. I hope me talking to him today again will make him realize I need a partner. I am so overwhelmed with NO help I told him I need a partner, he thinks that if he doesnt make the mess he shouldnt have to clean up. He lives with me and two of my kids so I guess he thinks ME and My Kids should do everything.