We’ve been together for 5 years. We have sex every other day sometimes every day. He initiates it all the time. No four play. Just “let’s have sex” he has never gone down on me or fingered me. When I have brought that up he said he figured I had a hang up with it cause I never asked. I know he watches porn and that has been a big self confidence thing for me. I’ve asked him to stop, he claims he has but he hasn’t. Knowing he watches it Makes me feel less sexy, and less inclined to initiate sex at all anymore. I feel like he’s comparing me to those porn stars. I’ve tried to bring it up and he denies it. He doesn’t masterbate to it cause like I said we have sex all the time. He watches it at work to kill time I guess. We argue a lot about our sex life. The main argument is that I don’t initiate sex but complain about how Unsexual he initiates it. But I don’t initiate it cause I don’t feel sexy or desired because Of his lack or four play. So it’s a cycle. I think about doing sexy stuff but then I just feel dumb. Like I’m not going to be good at it. Then I get mad that there’s an expectation for me to be sexy and alluring and he’s never done anything of that sort. It’s literally ruining our marriage.