Hello everyone...
I would like to know your opinions about this sex issue I'm having. My husband (an otherwise sweet and smart guy), really likes anal. I like anal sometimes (way less often than he does) but find it in general scary, even when I'm enjoying it (it hurts and it's potentially super painful)
So...many times I have told him I would like to do it once in a while only, and I have also told him it's scary and I like to take it slow. He listens and seems to be okay with my requests, but then every single time we have sex he tries to sneakily start having anal. As in, let's see if she'll let me (maybe he doesn't think I'll notice?). I sometimes tell him, hey, that's my ass...please get out, but he keeps trying pretending he doesn't know where he is. Sometimes I just let him do it because...I don't want to dissapoint him. But I hate it. I have cried afterwards and he feels bad and tells me it will never happen, but it does...always.
What's more, sometimes he has done anal, and then when I complained he changed to vaginal, and this caused me to have infections (several times). This is the reason why now I ask him not to change places, so when he has been angling for anal (and there has been considerable physical contact between his penis and my ass), the whole deal is ruined, because I don't want it anywhere else! But today he didn't listen to me. I said I didn't want it in my vagina after it being in my ass, and he started begging as in pleeeeeassse, pleeeasse! I kept saying "no, I could get sick!" and he just got on me and was about to do it! until I said very sternly and looking at him in the eye "I SAID NO".
After this I left very quickly and locked myself in the bathroom. I feel...I don't know. Does he even care about me, my health, my wishes? I am sad.
I stayed in the shower and cried a little bit until I was sure he had left the house and now I know he'll feel guilty and apologize but nothing will change.
I would like to know your opinions about this sex issue I'm having. My husband (an otherwise sweet and smart guy), really likes anal. I like anal sometimes (way less often than he does) but find it in general scary, even when I'm enjoying it (it hurts and it's potentially super painful)
So...many times I have told him I would like to do it once in a while only, and I have also told him it's scary and I like to take it slow. He listens and seems to be okay with my requests, but then every single time we have sex he tries to sneakily start having anal. As in, let's see if she'll let me (maybe he doesn't think I'll notice?). I sometimes tell him, hey, that's my ass...please get out, but he keeps trying pretending he doesn't know where he is. Sometimes I just let him do it because...I don't want to dissapoint him. But I hate it. I have cried afterwards and he feels bad and tells me it will never happen, but it does...always.
What's more, sometimes he has done anal, and then when I complained he changed to vaginal, and this caused me to have infections (several times). This is the reason why now I ask him not to change places, so when he has been angling for anal (and there has been considerable physical contact between his penis and my ass), the whole deal is ruined, because I don't want it anywhere else! But today he didn't listen to me. I said I didn't want it in my vagina after it being in my ass, and he started begging as in pleeeeeassse, pleeeasse! I kept saying "no, I could get sick!" and he just got on me and was about to do it! until I said very sternly and looking at him in the eye "I SAID NO".
After this I left very quickly and locked myself in the bathroom. I feel...I don't know. Does he even care about me, my health, my wishes? I am sad.