Hi all,
Late 30s female here who's been married for 4 years and have known my husband for 7. Have been trying to have kids since the first year since I am older as well as hubby(same age) wanting to have kids right away.
We have tried fertility treatments for almost 3 years but to no avail and have been diagnosed with "unexplainable infertility". I got this diagnosis from multiple specialists .
My husband has always been adamant that we have kids and recently, I have confronted him where he said he will "try" to live his life without kids in the future. This has caused alot of pain and resentment in me since I already get pressure from his parents, my parents and now him for being unable to have kids.
Also sex life is almost nonexistent(2X for 2012), for the past few years it has become more of a chore than pleasure due to the schedule of monitoring my cycles and trying to get pregnant, and the evasiveness of the fertility treatments.
I am starting to question his love for me, whether he values having kids more than myself since it sounds like he won't stick around for the long term due to him wanting to have kids. He won't consider options such as adoption since he wants biological kids.
I am also wondering if I love him anymore since there is so much resentment in me for not getting a firm answer from him whether we'll stay together for the long run. And I feel like he is placing having kids above me. I feel I am only slightly better than a baby-making machine in his eyes.
We both just recently started marriage counselling but I am not optimistic he is willing to change his view on being in a childless marriage.
Any opinions and advice are appreciated.
Late 30s female here who's been married for 4 years and have known my husband for 7. Have been trying to have kids since the first year since I am older as well as hubby(same age) wanting to have kids right away.
We have tried fertility treatments for almost 3 years but to no avail and have been diagnosed with "unexplainable infertility". I got this diagnosis from multiple specialists .
My husband has always been adamant that we have kids and recently, I have confronted him where he said he will "try" to live his life without kids in the future. This has caused alot of pain and resentment in me since I already get pressure from his parents, my parents and now him for being unable to have kids.
Also sex life is almost nonexistent(2X for 2012), for the past few years it has become more of a chore than pleasure due to the schedule of monitoring my cycles and trying to get pregnant, and the evasiveness of the fertility treatments.
I am starting to question his love for me, whether he values having kids more than myself since it sounds like he won't stick around for the long term due to him wanting to have kids. He won't consider options such as adoption since he wants biological kids.
I am also wondering if I love him anymore since there is so much resentment in me for not getting a firm answer from him whether we'll stay together for the long run. And I feel like he is placing having kids above me. I feel I am only slightly better than a baby-making machine in his eyes.
We both just recently started marriage counselling but I am not optimistic he is willing to change his view on being in a childless marriage.
Any opinions and advice are appreciated.