I am 22, married to a military man. We have a 1 year old daughter that i stay home with and we have been married for almost 2 years. I have virtually no sex drive and its starting to bother my husband. We were up fighting about it all last night. I love my husband dearly, and i still find him attractive. But after a day of my baby crying at my feet and getting her food all over me i dont feel attractive and the way he goes about initiating sex doesnt exactly put me in the mood either. the groping and the dirty talk (joking of course) just doesnt do it for me. i have a 1 year old pulling and poking all day, the last thing i want is for my husband to do the same thing. especially since 2 weeks ago i was informed he wishes i would lose weight... which in fact i need to but he waited until a fight about something else to bring it up and tell me how hes never been with someone my size. so its really hard for me to be vunerable with him, knowing that im not exactly what he likes. im also just an awkward person, thanks to my mothers teasing and taunting about sex when i was younger. i tried to talk to him about it and suggest he help me through it and i got a "get over it" reply. i know im in the wrong as much as him, but i just need some advice before it gets taken too far.