First a little bit of background....husband and I have been together 12 years and have two small daughters, 2 and 7. For years we have been working opposite shifts, I'm on days he's on nights, so we don't see each other very often. We are intimate about once a month, which is ok with me because I have a low drive, but he wants it a few times a week (even though he's only home 1 or 2 nights a week).
I don't have a problem with being intimate more often if he would initiate, I've never turned him down. The big issue is that he rarely initiates. We got into a big argument last night about all this. I asked him why he won't tell me when he wants to be together. He says that I should just automatically know that he wants it and that he wants me to come to him ALL the time. So, you want more sex but you're gonna leave it up to the person with LD to initiate? And then get mad when we only have sex once a month?!?
Lets face it...with two small children, working opposite shifts, and me having a low drive, it's very difficult to "get together". Oh and another thing, he has a physical issue which he will not get medical help for, when we DO have sex he has to take a viagra and then wait an hour. Well there goes the spontaneity, I hope the kids don't wake up in the mean time
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Anyway...he's unhappy and blaming me for everything. I'll take responsibility for my part with my LD, but I'm not gonna take the blame for everything.
I don't have a problem with being intimate more often if he would initiate, I've never turned him down. The big issue is that he rarely initiates. We got into a big argument last night about all this. I asked him why he won't tell me when he wants to be together. He says that I should just automatically know that he wants it and that he wants me to come to him ALL the time. So, you want more sex but you're gonna leave it up to the person with LD to initiate? And then get mad when we only have sex once a month?!?
Lets face it...with two small children, working opposite shifts, and me having a low drive, it's very difficult to "get together". Oh and another thing, he has a physical issue which he will not get medical help for, when we DO have sex he has to take a viagra and then wait an hour. Well there goes the spontaneity, I hope the kids don't wake up in the mean time
Anyway...he's unhappy and blaming me for everything. I'll take responsibility for my part with my LD, but I'm not gonna take the blame for everything.