A few years ago I married my longtime boyfriend, only love and lover in my life. At the start of the relationship the sex was phenomenal. Then years went by and as I got older the love making was amazing. When I turned 24 and him 30 then things changed. It seemed like he just didn't want sex as often anymore. First he blamed it on stress, then stomach issues. Then it got worse. It seemed like we were only having sex every couple months when we used to have sex at least 4 to 5 times a week. I have a very healthy sex drive. It started to tear us apart but we talked about it and it would change for a little while and I loved him so I married him anyway. This lead to a lot of arguments several divorce conversations and now we are right back into the same issues. We have sex once a month twice if I am lucky. I am 28 years old, attractive, active. I buy lingerie, dress up but he constantly rejects me. I feel down on myself but I shouldn't. He holds the cards constantly. I go to school full time working on degree number two, work full time, keep up the house. I offer him oral sex all the time because I enjoy that which none of my fellow girlfriends say, I enjoy sex, pleasing him pleases me. Where have I gone wrong. Why does it feel like divorce or going without are my only options?