I'm guessing you are having too many orgasms if there is such a thing.
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No ED Issues, But Can't Finish Sometimes
I'm looking to see if there are any other guys out there with a similar issue. I have no problem staying hard, but have trouble finishing sometimes. After a while while we're having sex, my wife may start to get sore so we try to get it done in other ways. But I still have a problem and after a good long time trying on both our ends, there are nights when I just have to give up.
There are no underlying issues such as stress or diet, and we have rekindled a dying flame in the bedroom. So it's all there for me; no excuses. And I'm on test replacement therapy and am horny as hell all of the time.
That may be my problem, though. On the days we do not have fun, I feel the need to masturbate. So I'm hoping that it is attributed to that. So I am trying to 'hold off' for a few days and see if that helps.
There are no underlying issues such as stress or diet, and we have rekindled a dying flame in the bedroom. So it's all there for me; no excuses. And I'm on test replacement therapy and am horny as hell all of the time.
That may be my problem, though. On the days we do not have fun, I feel the need to masturbate. So I'm hoping that it is attributed to that. So I am trying to 'hold off' for a few days and see if that helps.
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You could be suffering from Retarded Ejaculation. Here's a useful link on the subject: MensHealthOnly.com: Difficulty Ejaculating
They made some good points and some of them matched up with what I am going through. Thanks.You could be suffering from Retarded Ejaculation. Here's a useful link on the subject: MensHealthOnly.com: Difficulty Ejaculating
It's odd because it only happens some of the times and there is no set pattern. There are instances when I feel that I can finish, but hold out for my wife to have another orgasm. That's when it gets worse for me to get back to that point.
Hey, I'm not in my 20's (or 30's, for that matter) any more, so I'm sure that this is something that just occurs as men age. But I'd like to work around it, if possible.
Are you taking paxyl?
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Ask her to blow you after sex.
A good BJ is a sure fire way to get your load off.
Assuming of course she knows how to get the job done.
A good BJ is a sure fire way to get your load off.
Assuming of course she knows how to get the job done.
Sure wish (???) I had this problem.
During oral on you, she/you might want to try some anal play. If you're interested in it of course.Ask her to blow you after sex.
A good BJ is a sure fire way to get your load off.
Assuming of course she knows how to get the job done.
As a guy gets older it gets more common.Sure wish (???) I had this problem.
During oral on you, she/you might want to try some anal play. If you're interested in it of course.
Take it from one who has been there.
And yeah get her to finger your ass a bit for mind blowing orgasms. Doesn't only have to be during oral. If her arms are long enough and you can get the position right it can happen during sex and that can be enough to.. um.. "trigger you".
If you're not interested then GET interested.
Glad it helped. If relaxation or trying some new techniques doesn't help, you might want to chat with a sex therapist. I should imagine it's one of things where the more you worry about it, the worse it becomes.They made some good points and some of them matched up with what I am going through. Thanks.
It's odd because it only happens some of the times and there is no set pattern. There are instances when I feel that I can finish, but hold out for my wife to have another orgasm. That's when it gets worse for me to get back to that point.
Hey, I'm not in my 20's (or 30's, for that matter) any more, so I'm sure that this is something that just occurs as men age. But I'd like to work around it, if possible.
I'm 46 and have the exact same problem.
and I agree it mostly happens when I hold off my orgasm so we can go longer and then I can't complete the deal.
kinda sux and the wife feels bad like I don't think she sexy anymore.
don't get me wrong giving the wife big orgasms is cool and an ego boost but not shooting the gun is problematic.
try laying off the masterbating
and I agree it mostly happens when I hold off my orgasm so we can go longer and then I can't complete the deal.
kinda sux and the wife feels bad like I don't think she sexy anymore.
don't get me wrong giving the wife big orgasms is cool and an ego boost but not shooting the gun is problematic.
try laying off the masterbating
Yes, and also blood pressure medication, which I just read up on this issue and those two can be possible causes.Are you taking paxyl?
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But what makes me think that they aren't is that I have been on both for years and this problem is more recent. Yes, it did occur at times throughout my whole life, but there was a lot of alcohol involved then so I pointed to that as the cause.
It's also called Delayed Ejaculation and there are many possible causes. I fit into a few of them. Just curious if other guys on here have had any success combating this.
My wife and I have already planned out our next bang for Friday night so I am refraining from rubbing one out until then to see if that may be te main issue.
Few things could be contributing factors.
Certain medications
To much alcohol
To much masterbation
To much porn
Age
Psychological issues (concentrating on it to much or trying to hard) Or mind wandering about other things.
Certain medications
To much alcohol
To much masterbation
To much porn
Age
Psychological issues (concentrating on it to much or trying to hard) Or mind wandering about other things.
Are you monitoring your estrogen levels? High estrogen can be a problem for this.And I'm on test replacement therapy and am horny as hell all of the time.
I occasionally have a problem, but it got worse when I began testosterone treatment. I'm now taking Arimidex to lower estrogen levels and it hasn't been an issue so far.
Before testosterone treatment, it could still be an occasional problem. Usually, just changing positions (missionary to doggie or oral) was enough to push me over the edge. I know what you mean about waiting too long. I could easily have a quick orgasm, but I'd often wait a little longer in order to please my wife. However, if I waited too long, it was like I got desensitized, and then, orgasm was much more difficult. Another technique was to simply withdraw and take a break for a few minutes and try again.
Anti depressants can have this effect, I had the same problem with lexipro.
If the OP has been circumcised, lack of sensitivity could be the problem. It's one of the "benefits" from the procedure that the medical profession doesn't often advertise when trying to promote the process.
(getting older doesn't lessen the problem, either)
(getting older doesn't lessen the problem, either)
Paxil is renowned for causing performance issues, OP. You say you've been on it for years, and I'd be careful with that because if it stops working for you (which it has a tendency to do), tapering off it slowly mightn't be an option. I was on Paxil (Seroxat in the UK) for years, and developed all sorts of weird and 'wonderful' side effects. It took me 2 years to slowly wean off the stuff, but when I did I felt far better than I had whilst on the it.
Withdrawal techniques - paxilprogress
Withdrawal techniques - paxilprogress
I have done more research on this issue and I have come to the conclusion that my frequent masturbation is the root of my problems. So I am trying to go 'cold turkey' from my frequent porn use and jerkin' off.
I have a great excuse to give it a shot at this time because my wife's libido has finally returned after a decade or so. So I am actually getting it at a good rate now.
And to answer the other questions, yes, I am circumcised and I did not deal with this problem as much a few years back. The medication was the same then as it is now and my masturbation - while always frequent - has grown and there are more candles on the birthday cake.
I also know that I put myself in a bad position when I feel that this problem is happening, thus putting added pressure on myself to get it done. That only makes it worse.
I have a great excuse to give it a shot at this time because my wife's libido has finally returned after a decade or so. So I am actually getting it at a good rate now.
And to answer the other questions, yes, I am circumcised and I did not deal with this problem as much a few years back. The medication was the same then as it is now and my masturbation - while always frequent - has grown and there are more candles on the birthday cake.
I also know that I put myself in a bad position when I feel that this problem is happening, thus putting added pressure on myself to get it done. That only makes it worse.
I have found that when I try and please my wife more than myself, I intentionally delay ejaculating and I can't complete it later. In the first 5-10 minutes of sex, I can feel the urge building. If I ignore the urge and keep going to ensure she has 1 or more orgasms, then she starts to get looser down there. Kids and age have taken their toll on her ability to stay tight. So I have found that ignoring the urge kind of desensitizes me, and since she is looser, I get less friction. That combination causes me not to be able to finish also.
Exactly. It's a catch-22: you want to pease her and not cum too quickly but the first few minutes are usually the best. I know that I can finish but take my mind out of it for a bit and let it get back some. I have even stopped pumping because te slightest movement would have been it.I have found that when I try and please my wife more than myself, I intentionally delay ejaculating and I can't complete it later. In the first 5-10 minutes of sex, I can feel the urge building. If I ignore the urge and keep going to ensure she has 1 or more orgasms, then she starts to get looser down there. Kids and age have taken their toll on her ability to stay tight. So I have found that ignoring the urge kind of desensitizes me, and since she is looser, I get less friction. That combination causes me not to be able to finish also.
It's really counter productive in the long run. Especially with my wife; I'm not trying to impress her or prove something this far into te relationship. So what if I cum quick sometimes? I always go down on her before and the other day I did afterwards, too, when I couldn't finish.
But since te reboot, we banged three days in a row over the weekend and it went perfectly.
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