First off, I am VERY sorry that he and his family are making you the scapegoat for his low-T issues and/or ED issues. That's awful and I hope you aren't buying into that nonsense!
Secondly, I do not have a lot of experience with someone with low T but I do have experience with someone who had ED issues associated to something mental, not physical. But the whole time we were addressing his ED issues with doctor appointments and other evaluations, he always took the time to please me and made me feel special and attractive. I would hope that your husband would want that for you even though he may not be experiencing pleasure on his end because of his medical issue.
He should want that for you. Even though you may not be able to consummate the relationship and conceivie children together right now doesn't mean that you don't have physical needs. And it's not just physical but you need the emotional part that comes along with needing to feel wanted and desired. And I would think if you two just held each other and kissed without the pressure of sex it would make both of you feel great. No?
I can't answer all your questions and I hope someone comes along who can but perhaps I helped a little with #3 and how to prevent that. There is a way to keep that attraction going without sex but you both have to be willing participants. Unfortantely, at this time, you'll be benefiting from it more physically but it will be good for both of you emotionally to stay connected.
Secondly, I do not have a lot of experience with someone with low T but I do have experience with someone who had ED issues associated to something mental, not physical. But the whole time we were addressing his ED issues with doctor appointments and other evaluations, he always took the time to please me and made me feel special and attractive. I would hope that your husband would want that for you even though he may not be experiencing pleasure on his end because of his medical issue.
He should want that for you. Even though you may not be able to consummate the relationship and conceivie children together right now doesn't mean that you don't have physical needs. And it's not just physical but you need the emotional part that comes along with needing to feel wanted and desired. And I would think if you two just held each other and kissed without the pressure of sex it would make both of you feel great. No?
I can't answer all your questions and I hope someone comes along who can but perhaps I helped a little with #3 and how to prevent that. There is a way to keep that attraction going without sex but you both have to be willing participants. Unfortantely, at this time, you'll be benefiting from it more physically but it will be good for both of you emotionally to stay connected.
