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I am posting this because my wife and I are having an issue. I am going to try to get her to post here as well. She can explain her feelings better then I can explain her feelings and I'm hoping this community can help is resolve some problems we are having. My marriage is anything but traditional. I am a 24 years old and active duty in the military, my wife is 23 years old and has just graduated college last May. We have only known each other since the end of march of this year. We met online on a dating site and hit it off really well. She lived about 2 hours away from my base. I would drive down to her apartment off campus every weekend to be with her. After she graduated she was moving closer to where I work (1 hour away). We were looking for apartments one day and the subject of a financial military marriage came up. We both agreed that it would be mutually beneficial for us and decided to get married. June 5 we were wed, soon after we moved in together. We both agreed we would still take it slow. Not announce it to friends/family until we were 100% certain we were right for each other and had a ceremony. We would be married but still realize we were boyfriend and girlfriend.
That being said we are in love, I have never felt like this about anyone in my entire life. At first I thought our relationship quite odd, but now I love the fact that she is my wife. She brings out the best in me and I love her so much.
Our issue is that I love when we have sex. I suppose I have a high sex drive, I could easily have sex everyday, multiple times per day and love it. My wife is more content to a few times a week or so. There is no real quantifiable number. She just doesn't like that I initiate so much and want to always have sex with her. It really bothers her. She thinks we need to have less sex and make it more quality then quantity. I don't see why we can't have both. She has explained to me has multiple times I have tried to have sex with her when she is not in the mood, but because I am persistent she gives in just to get me to stop. It's hard for me to not hit on her and want to be with her, she is incredibly beautiful and intoxicating. I hate that she feels this way though and it hurts me that the situation is the way it is. When she does reject me she says I get upset and end up pouting. She's not wrong, I don't like being rejected. It hurts my feelings. I know it is something I need to work on though.
Tonight my wife and I got into an arguement over bondage. I enjoy some light bondage play, tying her up, blindfold, etc. she thinks it is weird and cannot stand it. I said that I wish she would compromise every now and then and do it for me. She said no and that asking me to do something she doesnt enjoy is completely undermining her feelings. This spilled over into me always wanting to have sex and it turning her off and makin her mad because I always am trying to get laid. I think it's unfair she won't even do it for me, it's not as though it's every time we have sex. It might be once or twice a month I get the urge. If the shoe were on the other foot, I would try to please my wife if she had a fantasy or fetish.
Could anyone offer some advice for our situation?
P.S. It is late at night, I know I rambled a bit. I hope I got my issue across though.
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That being said we are in love, I have never felt like this about anyone in my entire life. At first I thought our relationship quite odd, but now I love the fact that she is my wife. She brings out the best in me and I love her so much.
Our issue is that I love when we have sex. I suppose I have a high sex drive, I could easily have sex everyday, multiple times per day and love it. My wife is more content to a few times a week or so. There is no real quantifiable number. She just doesn't like that I initiate so much and want to always have sex with her. It really bothers her. She thinks we need to have less sex and make it more quality then quantity. I don't see why we can't have both. She has explained to me has multiple times I have tried to have sex with her when she is not in the mood, but because I am persistent she gives in just to get me to stop. It's hard for me to not hit on her and want to be with her, she is incredibly beautiful and intoxicating. I hate that she feels this way though and it hurts me that the situation is the way it is. When she does reject me she says I get upset and end up pouting. She's not wrong, I don't like being rejected. It hurts my feelings. I know it is something I need to work on though.
Tonight my wife and I got into an arguement over bondage. I enjoy some light bondage play, tying her up, blindfold, etc. she thinks it is weird and cannot stand it. I said that I wish she would compromise every now and then and do it for me. She said no and that asking me to do something she doesnt enjoy is completely undermining her feelings. This spilled over into me always wanting to have sex and it turning her off and makin her mad because I always am trying to get laid. I think it's unfair she won't even do it for me, it's not as though it's every time we have sex. It might be once or twice a month I get the urge. If the shoe were on the other foot, I would try to please my wife if she had a fantasy or fetish.
Could anyone offer some advice for our situation?
P.S. It is late at night, I know I rambled a bit. I hope I got my issue across though.
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